When and Where To Pick Up Women
When are women the most receptive to meeting a guy? When they least expect it. Call it cynicism, being jaded, or general human suspicion, but women are most guarded precisely when they know men are on the hunt.
Of course, you can get lucky on a Saturday night in a crowded downtown bar, but the odds are against it. Unless you’re particularly good-looking, stylish, funny or charming, you’re not going to “out-compete” the other guys in line.
A typical “meat-market” is really a poor place to encounter a female because it’s a competitive situation. This means you’ll have to impress the female more than other guys do. If you’re naturally an alpha-male, then go for it. You probably don’t need tips though, and you’re certainly not going to a bar to meet your girls – they’ll be coming to you.
For the average dude, though, a non-competitive environment is best. Time of day is probably the best indicator of a woman’s receptiveness. Approaching her before noon is doable, but somehow it doesn’t work that well (in my experience). Maybe it’s because I get up late and I’m groggy. But, I do think a working woman has a certain “getting things done” mentality in the morning. This makes her unreceptive as she’s focused on accomplishing her daily tasks.
Approaching a woman on the street too late can also be weird, because she’s fearful. If it’s dark, the rule of thumb is let her go. You’ll have an uphill battle trying to convince her you’re a legitimate guy. I find the best hours are maybe two in the afternoon till twilight, which depending on time of year and daylight’s savings time, can be any time between five and eight-thirty. Of course, the night restriction doesn’t apply if you’re saying hi in a well-lit venue like a café or grocery store. Still, that golden afternoon/dusk window seems to work best for meet and greets.
Time of day also has a bearing on when you send texts. If you’re planning on hooking her that evening, send the text late afternoon or near rush hour. That way, she is mentally already into “evening mode” and she’s contemplating her night. If she’s open, maybe she’s a bit desperate for something to do and will more likely agree to plans on your terms. If she’s already booked, then she’ll probably suggest another night. Avoid texting for plans too early in the day or morning because a) it makes you look desperate and b) you become the default plan for the night as she contemplates “better” plans with which to displace you.
Lastly, time of day figures into your first “date.” Keep in mind that if you want to sleep with a woman right off, a lot of time with her may work against you. Women will tell you that more time together is better because they can “get to know you.” They will claim to become more comfortable with you, etc. Well, that’s true, only if they really like you. And if women find you irresistible and want to spend lots of time with you, stop reading this book. It isn’t for you. The point is that of ten guys whom a woman agrees to date, only one will ultimately meet her standards (whatever those are) and the other nine will be summarily discarded. This is the brutal truth of the dating world. Giving her lots of time to make this decision will usually work against you.
How does this relate to “Time of Day”? Well, scheduling the first drink or first meeting late at night compresses the timeline of the date. If you meet at 9 or 10, she still gets her night with you, but you both are time-constrained. She’ll have to collapse her usual judgmental practices and may have to hook up with you while she’s still determining whether she likes you or not. She’ll probably go with it, women being the indecisive beasts they are.
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