4 Ways Pick Up Artist Fail with College Girls
Alright, for all my college Pick Up Artist wannabes I have news for you. You are going to die alone and never meet a girl in college … EVER.
Okay just kidding, but if you are planning on using your new found pick up artist powers that you just read out of a book you are in for some awful experiences. The thing is, PUA techniques are not designed for college girls at all. This is because they are designed to pick up women you have only 1 shot with at big city bars and clubs. It can help you, but there are some huge chunks of it you will need to cut out of your game. Here are the big 4 that I see really killing guys.
I am not a fan of these at all, but they can work. However, they will get you laughed out of bars in college. Why? Because everyone knows each other to some extent. You are going to see the same girls a lot. I give it about a week tops before people start noticing you are having the same cheesy conversation with everyone.
So, if you are planning on going out there and using your spiffy new PUA opener on every girl at the bar STOP! You are quickly going to become “That Creepy Guy” campus and get pepper sprayed on a regular basis (okay not really, but you get my point).
If you have read about pick up arts, you obviously know about the DHV (display of higher value). These are used to subtlety convey to girls that you are cool by talking about dating models, having money, and having interesting stories (usually all of these are made up). This is all great if you live in LA, however college girls don’t value these things in college. Things like getting drunk, partying in stinky garages and social status in college cliques matter a ton though.
If you want to use DHVs, you need to alter them to fit college. Instead of talking about driving a Lamborghini with your Victoria Secret model girlfriend, talk about going to a cool parties or knowing a lot of people. Again, this sets you up for failure though. If you don’t actually have these things you will end up looking stupid.
If you’re out at some random club with your drunken friends and you see pretty miss thing it’s either all in or nothing since you will probably never see her again. This is not the case in college though. You will probably see the girl in your freshmen math class all the way to your senior year. Does this mean you should be girly man and not make moves? No. This means you can move at a different pace with girls. If you are not feeling it one night you do not have to force it. In short you have time to wait for the right moment.
In big city bars everyone is pretty much a stranger. This puts the PUA at an advantage because he can come off like a very valuable person without knowing anyone at the club prior to entering. College clubs are a wee bit different, it still the same student base and people will constantly be running into people they know. If you are lurking in the corner, it is going to be blatantly obvious you are a level 100 creeper.
This is not a bad thing though. Because of this, if you have friends in college you will have a much easier time meeting girls because they probably know people as well. So instead of sitting in your room and memorizing openers and lines, work on making friends. A good way to do this is by saying hi to people, FYI.
There are many aspects of PUA that will help you out, but can you see why donning a furry hat and reciting routines isn’t the way to go in college? It is completely counter productive to work on this skill set when a much more natural approach will get you friends, girls, and allow you to be yourself. Finally, if all else fails, join a frat and have drunk girls dropped off at your house nightly. No game required!
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About Alex Becker Alex Becker is a dating coach and writer with a huge knowledge base in PUA, psychology, and social dynamics. He currently spends most of his time focusing on teaching college aged men how to naturally improve their success with women. In his free time he enjoys playing guitar, building websites, and his dog Chewbacca.