Destroying Other Guys: Rob’s Tactical Toolbox
Let me begin by saying that I’ve always hated the idea of “AMOGing”—a display of dominance over other men. I’ve been actively picking up women for years, and I can count on my fingers the number of times another guy has required an “AMOGing.” And even then, most of the traditional AMOG advice would have been heavy-handed and unnecessary.
That said, if you’re pursuing the desirable girls you should, you’re going to confront other guys. Most guys won’t even confront you to your face—instead they’ll trash talk you behind your back, try to convince your girl of your foibles, or get passive aggressive on your ass. I’ve seen it. And I’ve destroyed it.
Although, I didn’t “destroy” these lame attempts from spurred lovers by acting like an “alpha male.” Instead, I did it by acting like a Lambda Lambda Lambda male (yeah, that’s right, I just made a Revenge of the Nerds reference). My subtle—yet effective—destroyer of romantic rivals is a little technique I call, “Expose the Wiring.”
If you reduced “coolness” down to its square root, you’ll find that most cool behavior is mysterious in its intentions. On the other hand, uncool behavior is usually very obvious in its intention, which is exactly why guys who act “try-hard” or like a “dancing monkey” are deemed pathetic and unattractive.
Whenever someone points out a specific behavior and explains the intention behind it, the effectiveness (and coolness) of that behavior gets deflated. This is exactly why the pickup community circa 2005 was terrified when The Game was published. All the behaviors they’d learned, and which seemed mysterious, would be revealed for what they were: pickup techniques.
If you think about it, this premise is exactly why pickup lines fail, why trying something you saw in a movie fails, and even why grand romantic gestures fail. It’s too obvious. And, so, it’s not cool.
In other words, when you know someone’s intentions, you see “the wiring.” In other words, you know what makes someone tick, which gives you a sense of superiority over that person. Once a girl deems a guy as inferior, he’s immediately disqualified as a sexual prospect.
Now that you understand how “the wiring” works, you can use it to your extreme advantage.
Whenever you encounter another guy who is vying for the same girl as you, expose his wiring. If you can point out his behavior, you win. For example, in almost every exclusive relationship I’ve ever been in, I’ve dealt with guys who would buy my girlfriend gifts, offer to drive her around, and kiss her ass.
These guys would always claim they were just doing it because “they wanted to” or because she’s “such a good friend.” While it seemed obvious to me why these guys were acting like this, by pointing it out to my girlfriend, she’d stop seeing them as “caring friends” and see them for what they really were: creepy losers who were trying to bribe their way into her pants.
That’s an obvious example, but I use this little “destroyer” all the time. Here are some more examples:
These are just some silly examples to further explain the concept. If you can grasp why this is effective, and how to do it, you have at your disposal the most potent way of disarming any—and I mean any—guy who’s standing between you and a girl you like.
Which is exactly why I want to conclude this article with a caveat: use this tactic ethically. You now know how to make any guy seem uncool and pathetic, so please only use it on guys who deserve it. Otherwise, my evil clone may expose your wiring.
>>>To Learn More From Rob, Check Out “The 4 Elements of Game” where he breaks down game into four simple adjustments.
About Rob J. Rob J. is a writer and dating instructor in New York City. Themes that resonate in both his teaching and writing are masculinity, genuineness, rational self-interest, and general awesomeness.