What She Thinks of Your Female Friends
Women can be insecure creatures- even though we don’t show it at first. You can bet that if you have close female friends, your girlfriend is speculating about what might be going on.
Try introducing her to your nicest female friends first. If you think you might be with her for the long term, it pays off for her to be forming strong friendships with your female friends. She will feel more comfortable and confident around your social circle with a close friend or two, and the loyalty that a close friendship engenders means she won’t be suspicious that there’s something going on between you.
There’s bound to be one or two female friends of yours that she doesn’t take a liking to, because she is jealous or insecure. Chances are that your prettiest female friend will slot into this role- it’s only natural that your girlfriend will worry about you being so close to someone more attractive than her. But it’s not always the good-looking friend who cops the brunt of your girlfriend’s suspicions. If you have a friend who is not so good at respecting personal space, your girlfriend won’t necessarily know that your friend isn’t trying to hit on you.
Her jealousy isn’t necessarily baseless- if one of your friends is into you, your girlfriend will probably pick up on it before you do, so don’t totally dismiss her concerns.
No woman is going to try to restrict your freedoms at the start of a relationship. That comes with time, when you’ve been together for long enough that she feels comfortable telling you she’s not okay with something.
Of course, just after she meets your friends she is going to tell you that she thinks they’re lovely. Don’t believe a word of it- it’s not like she can tell you she doesn’t like them at that early stage. Months later, you will find out which of your friends she resents.
The younger she is, the more likely she is to have a problem with your female friends. As she becomes more mature and as she feels more secure in her relationship with you, her suspicions about your female friends will subside.
If you tend to have a gaggle of girl friends, you may want to consider dating older to bypass this problem altogether.
Honesty is usually the best policy, but sometimes it’s not worth the difficulty. Your girlfriend will see a big difference between female friends of yours that you have no attraction with, and those that you have been involved with in the past. You have to decide whether or not to tell her about that history. If only you and your friend know what happened between you, there’s hardly a reason to tell your girl about it. She won’t find out otherwise. However, if your history is well known within your social circle, you’ll have to tell your girlfriend before she finds out from someone else. Reassure her that there is nothing going on now. If she can’t accept you being friends with a woman you’ve been involved with, that’s immaturity on her part and she can get over it in time.
About Natasha Abrahams Natasha Abrahams is a writer and journalism student from Melbourne, Australia. When she is not busy with being a principal writer on Weekendnotes or skipping lectures, she can be found emptying her wallet at the nearest shopping centre. You can read more from Natasha at: http://mensstyleandfashion.com/