When She Uses a Pick-up Line on You
Suddenly, the tables are turned. She’s used a sleazy line on you rather than the other way around. What do you make of it?
It’s tempting to try to work out your route to her place once she’s pulled out a cheesy line. You may reason that you know what’s on her mind, so why bother with the following the conventional guide to flirting. However, she could very easily lose interest once she realises that you’re too easy a conquest. Make yourself the prize- don’t offer yourself to her the second she’s revealed she thinks you’re attractive.
She might also be flirting with you just for the fun of it, but isn’t seriously interested in taking things further than some light banter unless you pique her interest. Don’t try to presume her intentions until you’ve talked a little more and have worked out whether she wants to get with you, or is just having some innocent fun with you.
One flirtatious way to respond to her pick-up line, which shows her that you’re mildly interested in her but are not desperate, is saying something to the effect of “what makes you think a pick-up line will work on me?”. If you’re really bold, you could be even less subtle and say “you’re going to have to try harder than that if you want to get with me tonight”.
She may be hitting on you, but that doesn’t mean you can sit back and relax while she works to impress you. You still need to be conscious of flirting with her. Let her be in charge of the interaction and take the role that you’re accustomed to taking, but be aware of what you’re saying to her. If you have a signature move that tends to work, you can usually still use it on her.
Don’t make the opposite mistake of trying to take control either. She has initiated the interaction and she’s made it clear that she’s able to go for what she wants, albeit clumsily by using a canned line. She doesn’t want to be pigeon-holed into the passive role that women are often pushed into during flirting. You need to achieve the right balance of letting her maintain control but still making an effort to flirt with and impress her.
She hasn’t used a pick-up line because she’s desperate; she’s used it because she wants to be seen as funny. She wants to be appreciated for her personality rather than any assets she has- she may even be taking the dominant role because she is so sick of how men try to pick her up focused on her looks. So give her what she wants- pay attention to what she says and laugh at her jokes. If you are interested, make it clear through use of touch, but don’t make that the focus.
About Natasha Abrahams Natasha Abrahams is a writer and journalism student from Melbourne, Australia. When she is not busy with being a principal writer on Weekendnotes or skipping lectures, she can be found emptying her wallet at the nearest shopping centre. You can read more from Natasha at: http://mensstyleandfashion.com/