Does She Think You’re Bad in Bed?
Here’s how to find out if she’s less than impressed by your performance in the bedroom, without having to directly ask her.
There’s a reason she’s not keen on having sex with you – it’s because she thinks you’re a dud in the sack. Every now and then she might decide to give it another go, but she’s in the habit of blocking your advances. Yes, there could be other reasons for her to abstain- she might be too stressed to prioritise sex, she might not be attracted to you, she might be getting more than enough sex from someone else. But if she was really into you the first few times you had sex before her interest waned, the most likely explanation is that you’re not giving her what she wants. She must be attracted to you if she was keen at first- it’s the sex itself that’s putting her off.
The tactful way of telling someone that you’re not into what they’re doing, is to praise them when they finally get something right. Whether it’s during the act or afterwards, if she always makes the effort to tell you what she enjoyed, it’s probably because she hated the rest of it. This is great news for you though: it means she’s willing to give you time to improve and wants to help by giving constructive feedback. Better to heed her advice as a way of saying thanks for her patience.
Sometimes, if you want something done properly, you have to do it yourself. If she insists on going on top, it’s because she’s not satisfied with your performance. She might even go as far as giving you directions. It could be that she gets off on being in control, but it could also be because she thinks you’re terrible in the sack.
If she looks like she’s not enjoying herself, it’s because she’s not. She might be into it at first, but quickly becomes disinterested and stops paying attention as she waits for you to hurry up and finish. Avoiding eye contact is another clue that she’s mentally removed herself from the situation. If she zones out every now and then, it’s nothing to worry about- you could put that down to her being tired and having a short attention span. But if it seems to recur frequently, it’s because she is unimpressed with your performance but is too lazy to do anything about it.
If she’s fully satisfied, she will let you know. Not necessarily from her telling you directly- some women will, but others are too shy. It should be clear from her body language that she is quite pleased. If you can’t tell if she’s enjoyed it or not, then she hasn’t enjoyed it. Not every woman will be mad or annoyed if you’re bad in bed- if her body language seems fairly neutral, she wasn’t particularly pleased with the sex but she’s not too concerned about it.
About Natasha Abrahams Natasha Abrahams is a writer and journalism student from Melbourne, Australia. When she is not busy with being a principal writer on Weekendnotes or skipping lectures, she can be found emptying her wallet at the nearest shopping centre. You can read more from Natasha at: http://mensstyleandfashion.com/