Anatomy of a Good Story: 3-STEP System (Part 2)

Read Part One here.

2. Create tension by describing conflict

The lifeblood of every great story is ACTION. The formula of ANY story is this: someone wants something > they don?t immediately get it > a conflict ensues > person either gets what they want or they don?t. Think about every great story you?ve ever heard, movie you?ve ever seen, or book you?ve ever read?they ALL follow that formula!

Yet, sadly, most people who tell other people stories don?t understand this formula! Think back to a story that someone told you that bombed. For me, I remember once someone told this story:

?Oh man, I was a tattoo parlor the other day, and then this super hot chick walked in. Everyone in the tattoo parlor just stopped and stared at her. And then?get this?a big, muscular guy walked in after her and it was her boyfriend!?

When the guy told this story, everyone just remained silent, thinking there was more to the story. Finally, the guy said, ?And that?s the story?this girl?s boyfriend was a huge muscular guy!? See how terrible that story was? Needless to say, everyone started making fun of this guy for telling such a shitty story!

This story might have been worth telling if there was a conflict. For example, imagine if someone had hit on the girl and THEN her muscular boyfriend walked in. Now there?s a conflict! Would the muscular guy beat him up? Would the girl have given her number to the guy who hit on her? Maybe the muscular guy might suggest they all have a threesome? Who knows! But at least when there?s a conflict, it engages the listener!

Failing in inject some sort of conflict into a story is why so many stories fail. Even if it seems there is no conflict, try and find even the slightest struggle?and amplify it! For example, to return to the ?losing virginity? story, even if it happened without any ?struggle? from the girl (which hopefully is the case!), find conflicts elsewhere: did it take a while to unwrap the condom? Did you not even know how to use the condom? Did you finish in 2 seconds? Did you last too long and it got awkward? All these ?struggles? fit into the ?story formula!?

Remember: in any good story, someone WANTS something and they DON?T immediately get it. If you have those two elements, you have a conflict! And if you have a conflict, you have a story.

Summary of STEP 1:

Engage the listener by injecting a conflict into your story. To create a conflict, you only need things: 1.) a goal, 2.) an obstacle to that goal. Often your goal will align with the story topic. So, for example, if the topic is ?when I lost my virginity,? the goal is obviously ?having sex.?

Warning: Don?t neglect this step or rush through it. The entire point of telling a story IS the conflict. Feel free to spend time developing both the goal and the obstacles. Really make the listener FEEL how badly you wanted to accomplish this goal, and then REALLY amplify the obstacle that prevented you from achieving that goal.

Most of the emotion a woman will feel from your story comes from this step, so really work on getting good at creating tension in your stories. Absolutely pepper in descriptive details (like you did in STEP 1) to get your listener to ?experience? the conflict.

Examples of STEP 2:

Here?s how a good conflict might sound:

?When I was at my prom all I wanted to do was impress my date. I spent weeks practicing dance moves and I went all out on the limo and everything. Spent all the money I?d made as a busboy for this one night! I thought everything was going as planned until the last song when another guy asked her to dance!?

3. End with a ?resolution? to the conflict and ?cash in? the moral of the topic

Once you?ve built up your conflict, women will usually be on the edge of their seat, wanting to hear how to conflict ends. Even in the short example from STEP 2, you?re probably wondering, ?Well did she dance with the guy? Did you do anything?or did you just let it happen??

Since the story you?re telling actually happened to you (or at least it happened to you within a few standard deviations of an exaggeration), you should end the story truthfully. Even if you didn?t ?succeed? in your goal, you should tell the ending. In fact, the BEST stories are usually ones where the goal isn?t achieved, but something else awesome happens instead.

For example, to end the story from STEP 2, consider this:

?So my prom date agreed to dance with this asshole, and I was enraged. But, as the final song started playing, I realized something profound that still sticks with me to this day. Listening to ?Hanging on a Moment? by Lifehouse, which was the last song, I realized I was an idiot for trying to impress this girl with a big limo, white suit, dance moves. If this girl would choose some deuce bag over me, then I?m better off without her. I left my prom knowing that I?d never waste my money trying to impress other people ever again.?

Notice how the goal of ?impressing the prom date? was lost, but something better was won: an attitude. Please note: these examples aren?t meant to demonstrate good stories. They?re simply examples of how these ?story ingredients? work together.

Ending your story is very important. Another bad story trap is telling a run-on story that has no point and no end. In every story, there should be a definitive end. And that end should be ?signaled? to the listener by voicing the ?moral.?

When I say ?moral of the story,? I don?t mean some grandiose life lesson or philosophical truth. A moral of a good story can be as simple as, ?That?s why I don?t drink tequila anymore!? or ?That?s why I won?t ever date a Greek girl again!? By articulating what you ?learned? you end the story gracefully.

Ending on an ?abstract? note is especially useful when using storytelling to attract women because it gives her an opportunity to ?riff? on that topic. When you end your stories by saying what you ?learned? or ?understood? from an experience, it invites her to tell her story about a similar experience.

In closing, stories aren?t just a retelling of something that happened or a neat collection of words. Wars have been fought over stories (e.g., ?killing in the name of God?) so they certainly can help you score some points with a hot girl. Just keep the 3-STEP system in the back of your mind the next time you find yourself sitting across from a hot woman and let your story do the ?heavy lifting? of attraction for you!

Bonus tip: smart readers probably realize that they can start honing their storytelling skills around their friends, family, and coworkers. Only a fool would wait until a hot girl was standing in front of him to begin practicing his storytelling. Get good at telling your stories long before a hot girl is ever in front of you. This way, you?ll be rivaling Homer by the time you sit down for drinks with that hotty from the office!

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About Rob J. Rob J. is a writer and dating instructor in New York City. Themes that resonate in both his teaching and writing are masculinity, genuineness, rational self-interest, and general awesomeness.

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