The Best Way To Deal with Flaky Women
I add new women to my network constantly. I’m meeting women through my gym, through online dating, through Facebook, through friends, and from good old fashioned pickup. This keeps my dating pool stocked. One issue that arises is that the dates don’t always work out or the girls flake out or I flake on them. There is a lot of potential for hard feelings because no one likes being flaked on. This leads to what I call “dating fatigue,” where you become cynical with the opposite sex and frustrated because she isn’t behaving exactly how you expect her to.
From years of dating experience, I’ve gotten to this point: I NEVER show frustration or lose my cool to women in any way, even if they do crazy chick things that deserve a verbal smackdown. This means I don’t send frustrated text messages, get pissed over Facebook, or say anything uncool in person.
The reason is women are women and they are going to act flaky. They also change their minds and their behaviors all the time. If a chick flakes on me, I’ll wait a couple of weeks (or months) and inevitably she’ll hit me up to hang out. It happens all the time. A lot of PUA’s call this the slow play, where they keep a gaggle of girls in the background who have the potential to step forward at any time and be a girlfriend. Always keep all your women in play, even if they do something you don’t like.
Here is a recent example.
I picked up a girl at my gym over Christmas. Got a number and we communicated over text and Facebook. I set a two different dates with her and she flaked both times. Internally, I was pissed because I hate getting flaked on, but I kept my cool and forgot about her. I didn’t say anything at all. I went on other dates in the meantime.
A week ago, she texts me out of the blue and we re-connect. We’re meeting up this weekend. Apparently she had a “bunch of stuff” going on and just wasn’t in the right place to date. Who knew? Chicks do weird stuff all the time.
Bottom line: Never lose your cool and keep all women in your network. They are all an investment. You never know when they’ll come into play.
About Lance Lance is a tech geek by day, social artist and fitness enthusiast by night. He specializes in relationships in real life situations, such as workplace and in business, and his goal is to create high value social circles filled with opportunity. For more on his dating and relationship perspective, check out his blog honeyandlance.com