I Figured Out POF Game
So I’ve been investing some time in figuring out Plenty of Fish in the last couple of months and I think I’ve got it down. First off, if you’ve never used POF.com, it’s the world’s largest free online dating site. If you don’t feel like shelling out the $30 per month to mess around with Match.com, it’s a decent alternative for online dating.
The second thing you should know is the dating pool on POF is three steps above Craigslist ads. It’s not a complete cesspool, but it’s fairly trashy. There are far more guys than attractive women signed up, and for the most part the guys act like dooshbags on the site. There are some attractive women worth dating, but it can be hard to get through to them. Initially, I found it harder to game than Match.com, but I think I’ve figured it out.
Remember one of the primary concepts behind online dating? Always stand out. Well, since POF is populated with a massive number of dooshy guys, doing the opposite is what makes you stand out in the crowd.
Here’s what to do: Set up your profile and pictures so you appear to be completely normal. What this means is do not project a player vibe, don’t peacock, don’t send one-liner messages about hooking up, don’t give off the impression that you want to hook up at all. Your impression should be upwardly mobile professional that has his stuff together, has a cool family, has a good job, has money to spend without being ostentatious, and is a fun and intelligent guy. It’s what women refer to as a good catch.
I even go so far as to post pictures of myself wearing business attire or work clothes. My pics stand out because 99% of the guys have pictures with their shirts off, take mirror pics, or otherwise look smarmy. I look like a professional and chicks click on my profile because it’s completely different from the rest of the community. How I figured this out is one day I uploaded a professional picture I had taken for a website for my job. I immediately got a better reaction on the site. In my profile I’ll embed more information that describes me as a sporty guy.
In my profile, I’ll also give off the impression that I’m smart but a little dorky. I don’t want readers in any way to think I’m overly social, because they’ll think player vibe faster than you can say “f-close.” I may even act a little nerdy in my messages. Whatever throws off the scent. Being a geek these days is actually attractive to women, because they’re so fatigued from playerism.
Once I’ve established initial contact, I can usually get a phone number and meetup set in 2-3 messages. Once I’ve got those things, the sky is the limit. One thing to be aware of is the quality of women isn’t great on POF, at least in my area. Search around for diamonds in the rough.
About Lance Lance is a tech geek by day, social artist and fitness enthusiast by night. He specializes in relationships in real life situations, such as workplace and in business, and his goal is to create high value social circles filled with opportunity. For more on his dating and relationship perspective, check out his blog honeyandlance.com