Why You Should Put Her in the Friend Zone
If you’re not sure about the girl you’re seeing, consider putting her in the friend zone. Really, the friend zone doesn’t deserve its bad reputation! When you think you might want to date her properly in the future but don’t want to make a decision yet, the friend zone can make for a useful waiting room.
The entry to the friend zone is a revolving door. Once she’s in the friend zone, doesn’t mean she is off limits forever. Being friends with her gives you a reason to stay in contact, so if you do change your mind and decide she might be worth another go, you’re easily able to do so.
A prime opportunity to put her in the friend zone arises when she discusses taking your casual relationship to the next level. Rather than agree because it’s a slightly preferable option to ending things, put her in the friend zone. This way you can still be very loosely involved if you’re careful, but she’ll know not to be too free with her feelings towards you. Make the boundaries clear.
Having a hot friend can help you attract other good looking women. It can’t hurt to have her with you in a group situation on a night out, as long as she doesn’t have strong feelings towards you (in which case she will hold you back). Other women will see that she is acting positively towards you and take this as a sign that there is something special about you. Just make sure that your newly friend-zoned girl does not act like she is with you, which will dash your chances as other women will assume you’re off-limits.
Once she’s in the friend zone, you would be well advised not to have sex with her. This could too easily develop into the relationship you’re not sure you want. The idea is to make her decidedly a friend- and friends tend not to have sex. An occasional lapse is okay, as long as it doesn’t come to be expected and she knows that it will not develop from there.
The easiest way to friend zone her is by limiting your one-on-one social interactions. If you already share a social circle, you’re in a fantastic position to keep seeing her in that context without having to spend time with her on an individual level. Otherwise, you’ll have to recruit some of your friends to help you put her in the friend zone. Anything that she wants to do that remotely resembles a date, bring a friend (or a few) along. For example, if she suggests seeing a particular movie, tell her that one of your friends really wants to see it and make it into a group outing.
The other main thing you need to do to put her in the friend zone is stop doing anything sexual with her on a regular basis. Don’t give her any indication that you two are becoming an item. Otherwise, once she realizes that you have no intention of taking things further, she will feel used and will probably not give you the time of day again.
About Natasha Abrahams Natasha Abrahams is a writer and journalism student from Melbourne, Australia. When she is not busy with being a principal writer on Weekendnotes or skipping lectures, she can be found emptying her wallet at the nearest shopping centre. You can read more from Natasha at: http://mensstyleandfashion.com/