Why She Thinks You’re a Bad Kisser
Getting to the stage of kissing doesn’t mean that your work is done in picking up. There’s still plenty of time for you to blow your chances of anything more happening, so you need to perfect your making out technique if you want the rest of your night to turn out well. Here are some of the most common mistakes that you might be making- without even knowing it.
Dogs show their affection by slobbering all over your face. Unfortunately, many men do the same. If she’s wiping a swimming pool worth of saliva off her face, it’s because you’re an awful kisser. The washing machine technique is one of the worst- and unfortunately so common, especially if you’re drunk or embarrassingly inexperienced. It doesn’t matter how keen you are; don’t stick your tongue in her mouth as soon as her face is in front of yours. Start slowly and build up intensity rather than being too into it and eating her face off. Your technique should be controlled rather than sloppy.
On the other end of the scale, you could be too stiff when kissing. This can happen if you’re too nervous. The key to this is to relax your lips and not worry about it too much. It’s all about balance.
There’s nothing attractive about bad breath, and it’s all the more disgusting when you feel your mouth filling up with someone else’s bad breath. Usually, having a glass of water can fix the situation so your breath isn’t as repulsive.
When you’re making out at a club and she pulls away for a second, let her. Holding onto her won’t do you any favors. She will feel trapped and uncomfortable. If she wants to go back to her friends, you grabbing her around the waist so she can’t isn’t sexy, it’s aggressive. She may have lost interest or changed her mind about you, especially if you kiss like a spin cycle. Holding onto her won’t make her become interested again- let her go and move on. You’re only wasting your time and making her feel imprisoned.
She may want to move slowly with you- just because she is making out with you, does not mean she is receptive to being felt up. If she doesn’t seem into it, don’t push for more than you’re getting. While it’s fine to try to escalate your intimacy, if she’s not receptive you can’t keep trying because it will make her uncomfortable. Remember that you’re in no rush. Take things slowly if that’s what she wants, and she will enjoy the anticipation.
Unless she’s into you as a person, she probably won’t care too much about what you have to say while she’s trying to kiss you. If you keep stopping to try to carry a conversation, she will either get bored, or assume that you’re not attracted to her. Mirror what she does- if she’s really keen and won’t stop making out with you, run with it. Don’t destroy it by trying to have a proper conversation.
About Natasha Abrahams Natasha Abrahams is a writer and journalism student from Melbourne, Australia. When she is not busy with being a principal writer on Weekendnotes or skipping lectures, she can be found emptying her wallet at the nearest shopping centre. You can read more from Natasha at: http://mensstyleandfashion.com/