How Important is Money in a Relationship?
I liked what Alex Matlock wrote in his recent blog on needing to be rich in order to have success with women. I agree that you don’t need piles of money to get laid…in fact, it’s quite easy to pick up chicks with a minimum outlay of cash. The main ingredients you need are confidence and good game. A sense of style helps and so does a dash of ambition.
At the end of the article he admits that his model breaks down for guys in their 30’s or older. I agree with that also and I wanted to wade in on the money question…I’m a social artist who is deep into his 30’s. So, the question is, do you need money to have success with women when you’re 30 or older?
For me, the answer is an emphatic yes. 30-year-old dudes are relationship minded, and relationships cost money. I think of relationships like investments. If you invest a lot of resources into them, they can be extremely rewarding. That includes investing money. Note here, I’ve been seeking a quality LTR since probably age 32 and the only reason I switch to quick-lay mode is because I’m single and super busy with other projects and I don’t have the time to work on an LTR. I’m basically taking care of needs.
Relationships are all about going out, doing activities, exploring, spending time together, going on trips, and all of that costs money. I believe that relationships are built on experiences…you might be knocking boots regularly, but you’re not officially in a relationship until you’ve experienced a bunch of stuff together. That stuff is more than going to movies and going out for sushi a couple of times a month. For me, that’s only dating.
Relationship experiences are traveling, spending vacations together, spending time with each other’s families, picking up a new hobby or sport together, maybe going to college football games all season together. Serious long-term pair-bonding type stuff. All of that costs money. Obviously, major events like buying a house and having a kid together signify a relationship.
The more money you pump into it (to a point), the better the experience. I’ve been saying for years, a chick isn’t officially my girlfriend until we go on our first trip together. That might be 5-6 months into it. After that first vacation, if we’re still together, then I know we’ve got a real foundation. The trips I want to go on are like Vegas, Europe, and Australia. The chicks I prefer to be in relationships with are adventurous, so we might go on trip that includes several days of hiking and rafting. That’s an expensive trip, but it can be a great experience for both of us.
So if you’re age 30 and above, yeah you need money to be successful. You shouldn’t be stuck in quick-lay mode with party girls at the bars and don’t fool yourself into thinking you can build a great relationship without investing in it. Relationships cost money. Also, if you’re a dude, you NEED to be making your money or at least be well on the path to making money. Guys shouldn’t be poor in their 30’s. Take care of that first and foremost and then work on investing in a relationship.
About Lance Lance is a tech geek by day, social artist and fitness enthusiast by night. He specializes in relationships in real life situations, such as workplace and in business, and his goal is to create high value social circles filled with opportunity. For more on his dating and relationship perspective, check out his blog honeyandlance.com