How to Make it Work When She’s More Attractive
You managed to get the hottest girlfriend ever, but now you’re faced with problems you had never anticipated, precisely because she’s better looking than you. Too many men get themselves into a situation where they have developed the flirting and dating techniques to get together with a beautiful woman, but then have no idea how to act once in a relationship.
The main reason why beautiful women leave their less-than-beautiful boyfriends has nothing to do with his looks, and more to do with his actions. Often, women find that their less attractive men become weirdly possessive and jealous. You need to be confident that she wants to be with you even though you’re below her league, rather than be paranoid every time she so much as talks to another man. It may go against your every urge to not be jealous, but keep in mind that being overly controlling and constantly suspicious will destroy your chances of a successful relationship.
Sorry to say it, but you will need to make up for your comparative unattractiveness. I don’t mean through something like paying for all your dates together or buying her mountains of gifts- these actions would only reinforce the dynamic of her being the hot one and you being the one paying for it. You don’t want her to feel like you are buying her. There is obviously something about you which snagged her in the first place, and it’s probably something like your ability to have meaningful conversations or to not be an asshole. Whatever it is, keep doing it and constantly work on being the best possible version of yourself. You may not be the best looking guy to have on her arm, but one thing you can be is a decent boyfriend.
It may be hurtful when others talk about how she could do better, but you need to let those comments go. Rather than getting upset or angry about it, it is better for you to laugh and show that you are not worried about the discrepancy between her looks and yours. Of course, to be able to let those comments slide, you need to first be confident in your relationship.
The worst thing you can do is make a huge issue out of her being the better looking one, but the second-worst thing you can do is swing too far the other way and pretend that you are on equal footing. While you have other good qualities that attracted her to you in the first place, don’t act like you’re just as attractive as her if you are clearly not. If you don’t acknowledge her beauty every now and then, she will leave you for someone who will. This goes for any relationship no matter who is hotter, but is especially important when there is a large difference between you.
About Natasha Abrahams Natasha Abrahams is a writer and journalism student from Melbourne, Australia. When she is not busy with being a principal writer on Weekendnotes or skipping lectures, she can be found emptying her wallet at the nearest shopping centre. You can read more from Natasha at: http://mensstyleandfashion.com/