When she constantly picks fights
Every couple fights. Most couples sometimes have stupid fights over nothing. However, no couple can survive one party constantly picking fights with the other person. Of course, if she is usually going off at you for genuine problems in your relationship, this advice does not apply. Let’s talk about when she is always starting fights over non-issues.
Your first fight
Some women will pick a fight over nothing early on in a relationship, just to see what happens. You will be taken aback when this happens- what happened to your chill new girlfriend, and why has she been replaced with this raging monster? She is not being angry for fun, even if there is an element of her doing it on purpose. It is because she wants to see how you react. Her logic, which may not even be on a conscious level, is that it is better to find out early if you are going to leave at the first sign of an issue. If you really like her, you will get over the fight. It is not a big deal if this happens once, nor is it a big deal if you bicker on occasion. It is when it becomes a habit that you have a problem.
It’s a test
She starts a fight with you as the ultimate test. Perhaps she has already been testing you with loaded comments, and you have been failing those tests. So, it is time for her to ramp up her attempts at testing you. In order to pass the test, you need to tell her the right thing to end the fight in as little time as possible. It may be that she repeatedly starts arguments with you because you are failing every time. However, if you are dealing with each fight reasonably well, and she continues to start stupid arguments, you need to give her an ultimatum. Turn the test around on her, and tell her that if she does not stop with the petty fights, you are out of there.
Don’t ask if it’s her time of month
Some women get crankier than usual when it is that time of month. Raging hormones and being in pain may mean that she has a shorter temper than usual. Now, this does not mean that she does not mean what she says when it is period week. It may be the case that you are doing something that really annoys her, and most of the time she silently puts up with it. It is only when she already feels irritated that she will actually speak up about this issue. Many women also do not experience moodiness due to menstruating, so her cycle may have nothing to do with how angry she is. Regardless of whether or not you think she is more cranky than usual, it is not okay for you to ask her if she is only mad because she is on her period. This is like waving a flag in front of a bull. It will make her even angrier- which is the opposite of what you want.
About Natasha Abrahams Natasha Abrahams is a writer and journalism student from Melbourne, Australia. When she is not busy with being a principal writer on Weekendnotes or skipping lectures, she can be found emptying her wallet at the nearest shopping centre. You can read more from Natasha at: http://mensstyleandfashion.com/