What Girls Really Want in a Guy
Here’s something i posted on my Facebook page the other day:
Let’s dig a little deeper into the idea of “value” because I get the feeling a lot of my students don’t
understand this concept to well.
For instance, some students think value has to do with money or clothes, superficial stuff like that.
It also doesn’t have to do with doing stuff for her, buying her things, or solving her problems.
Those things don’t offer value in the way that makes her want you around.
So what does?
She sticks around because of how she feels.
There is NO “well he took me on vacation, and when my grandma died he was there for me…”
You are either satisfying some feeling she craves or you’re not.
Here’s the thing. Different girls have different feelings they value.
Some girls like feeling like they’re one of the Kardashian sisters whose boyfriend constantly disappoints her.
They place a high value on the drama a guy provides them. They actually LIKE bitching about their boyfriend to their friends.
Guys don’t understand this.
They meet a girl who is constantly bitching about how her boyfriend isn’t nice enough, or doesn’t want to
hang out, or flirts with other girls…
And the guy thinks “man, this girl will be easy to steal away.”
Because her boyfriend is providing her exactly what she values.
If he wasn’t she would have friend zoned him already.
Now, us guys are the SAME WAY.
I know guys that will continue to date a complete and total bitch, not because she’s hot, or good in bed… BUT because his friends are constantly telling him he lucky he is.
That is what the guy values. His friends approval.
Everyone places a high value on something.
So the question is:
Are you going to crawl inside her head and figure out what is really going to delight her? And figure out a way to give it to her?
Do girls leave you confused as to whether or not they like you?
Let's face it. Girl's don't make it easy for you. She will often send mixed signals leaving you unable to tell if she is being friendly or flirty. If you read her signals wrong you risk rejection and embarrassment. Or worse, you blow it with a girl who wanted to kiss you.
Here is a simple and innocent move that will instantly tell you if you're in the friend zone, or if she's waiting for you to kiss her.
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About Bobby Rio I'm Bobby Rio, one of the founders of TSB. I tend to write about what is on my mind so you'll find a mix of self development, social dynamics and dating articles/experiences. For a collection of some of my favorite articles check them out.