Surprising Ways to Help Her Reach Orgasm
There is no exact plan to follow when it comes to making women orgasm, but there are definitely some ways to change up your approach to doing so. Instead of just focusing on the physical touch part, here are some multifaceted ways to make getting here there that much easier.
A recent Belgian study found that fantasizing might be the cherry on top when it comes to reaching orgasm for women. According to the study women who reached orgams more often were more likely to let their minds to some walking during the act. This isn’t because your girl would necessarily prefer her favorite actor to you, but something about fantasizing might let women get out of their heads a little more which is crucial for reaching the big O.
Stress and thinking too much can be huge deterrents towards reaching a grand finish, so anything that she can do to relax is going to help. Focusing just on the good feelings on the other hand can encourage her to take it all the way. Not sure if she’s big on the fantasies? Let her know you’d be happy if she partook.
If she does, it’s probably a little more vanilla than you might imagine. A study published in the the Journal of Sexual Medicine asked 1,516 participants to rate 55 different sexual fantasies and then they were put in different categories. They found that over 92 percent of women like to fantasize about having normal romantic emotions. So sweet. And it’s not just the women, 88.3 percent of men felt the same.
You know that women require a little more (or a lot more) foreplay action than you do, but you can jumpstart this process even before you’re physically together. Many women are turned on by other things that they like about you besides your sweet love making moves, so don’t forget it. That means texting her sweet things (or saying them on the phone even), saying sexy things that show how much you want her, or just making her feel special in any way. Try making a little extra effort and see if she starts to heat up faster.
For many women hearing you enjoying her will turn her on that much more. Try whispering in her ear all the things that you want to do to her which will both pique her interest and turn her on with the ear stimulation. Nothing is sexier than feeling desirable to the person you desire.
Dirty talk can go south if it gets too far off base however, so judge her responses as you go before you start blurting out any of your fantasies that don’t involve her. Keep it relevant, and throw in some details about how you want to do it instead of just saying that you do. The more details you can give to a girl the better chance she has of building this real life event to a fantasy level one in her mind, which will make things that much more fun.
About Kate Ferguson Kate Fergus is a Los Angeles local and freelance writer for a variety of blogs and online magazines. When she's not writing, the UC Davis graduate is focused on pursuits of the entertainment industry, spin class, and hot sauce.