How the Amount of Sex You’re Having Affects Your Happiness
In case you’re unaware of how often you like to have sex, researchers like to research such topics so that they can let you know as well. A recent study set out to determine if more is really better, and they found out that not that’s necessarily true. Other studies have claimed that to be so, but many people would argue otherwise.
According to the expert opinions of the researchers from the Society for Personality and Social Psychology, the perfect amount of sex for most people to be having is once a week. This study wasn’t just thrown together over a weekend either, it actually spanned over 40 years and took into account the opinions of 30,000 different American people.
But here’s the thing…it’s sort of impossible to know if having sex once a week is what actually makes me people happier, or if happier couples just happen to have sex on average once a week.
The study’s researcher Amy Muise said:
“Our findings suggest that it’s important to maintain an intimate connection with your partner, but you don’t need to have sex every day as long as you’re maintaining that connection.”
Well that certainly makes sense, and is not exactly shocking. Any couple who’s happy in their relationship probably isn’t the feeling the pressure to have more sex for no reason, and most happy couples are maintaining their intimate connection.
But here’s where the study has something a bit more interesting to say. While a correlation can be found between happy couples and having sex once a week, this doesn’t hold up when it comes to single people having sex. Turns out it’s the intimacy of a relationship might be what sustains that happiness, not simply hooking up with people who you don’t have that intimate thing with.
Additionally, the findings for how much sex makes people happy weren’t different across ages, genders, or the length of relationships. Men and women seemed to have pretty similar ideas about how often they should be getting it on with their partner. They also found that money doesn’t necessarily make people happier than having regular sex does in relationships does.
In fact, huge differences in income were less likely to predict someone’s happiness levels than how often they were having sex. People who had sex only once a month in their relationship were way more bummed out than people who weren’t making very much money. This is obviously not an exact science, but the gathered facts are definitely interesting.
The researchers concluded:
“It’s important to maintain an intimate connection with your partner without putting too much pressure on engaging in sex as frequently as possible.”
As for how this relates to your own life, that’s for you to decide. If you’re in a relationship and not having that often (or you’re having way more sex than that), only you and your lady can determine if it’s the right amount. And if you’re single and not feeling emotionally fulfilled from your sexcadpades, well maybe this sheds some light into why. No pressure.
About Kate Ferguson Kate Fergus is a Los Angeles local and freelance writer for a variety of blogs and online magazines. When she's not writing, the UC Davis graduate is focused on pursuits of the entertainment industry, spin class, and hot sauce.