3 Things That Will Instantly Get you Friendzoned
Being put in the friendzone by a girl that you are interested in dating sucks more than most shit in this world?
?Most guys would rather watch a 24-hour marathon of The Notebook than get friendzoned?
?Some guys have even watched The Notebook more times than they?d like to admit as a result of being in the friendzone.
If we find ourselves in the friendzone with a girl we want to date it can be tough to figure out how we got there.
?WHERE DID WE GO WRONG?…
?We might even have made our intentions clear that we were interested in being more than just friends?
Usually it?s like we?re just walking along, minding our own business and then?
We?ve fallen into that inescapable pit of the friendzone.
There are plenty of ways to get into the friendzone and a big one is NOT MAKING YOUR INTENT CLEAR.
What this means is that we never gave any indication to her that we were interested in dating her?
As a result, she put us in the friendzone by default because let?s face it?
?She didn?t know where else to put us?
?BUT WHAT IF WE MADE OUR INTENT CLEAR? ?
Maybe we took her on a date?
?And yet somehow, we still ended up in this terrible place called the friendzone.
There are a few mistakes that any sensible guy can make that will land us in the friendzone, despite making it clear to her that we don?t want to be just friends?
?and the good news is?
VAN?S GOT YOUR BACK!
What went wrong???
Any sensible guy will take a step back and look at a woman?
Try to figure out what she likes and what her interests are?
?And try to do those things get her attracted?
I mean it?s only logical thinking that got us here?
If we do the things, she likes then she will enjoy us and then want to continue spending time with us?
?But who said anything about wanting to date us?
Doing all the things she likes is a great way to get friendzoned?
?Now I?m not saying it?s a good idea to do things she doesn?t like because that would be terrible advice.
What I?m saying is if we give her everything she likes then we have given away all of our magnetic energy?
LET?S BREAK IT ON DOWN
People will pursue things that they want, that they don?t already have?
What that means is if we give them everything, they want then why would they continue to pursue us?
Here?s what it ends up looking like?
TAKING HER OUT ON A REALLY FANCY FIRST DATE
Now I?m not suggesting we take her a shitty food truck on the bad side of town?
?But taking her to a good food truck downtown wouldn?t be a bad idea?
HERE?S WHERE A LOT OF GUYS GO WRONG.
They want to impress a girl, so they find a really nice romantic restaurant?
?make a reservation?
?dress up really nice and try to impress her with a romantic first date.
When we do that, we have given away all of our magnetic energy and now she has all the attractive power.
We pretty much told her that we are going to try super hard to impress her and THAT?S NOT ATTRACTIVE!
?This is not how we want to show our intentions because it comes across as NEEDY AND DESPERATE.
After we spent all that money on that money on the romantic expensive date?
?At the end of the night?
?Instead of a kiss?
?We get?as Rob Judge would call it?the pity pat, and an ?it was really nice to meet you.?
Which translates perfectly to ?THANKS FOR THE GOOD ASS FREE FOOD?HERE?S YOUR ADMISSION TO THE FRIENDZONE?.
Now I?m not saying that we should treat her like anything less than an amazing beautiful woman.
What I?m saying is we shouldn?t treat her like the princess of the magical pussy kingdom?
?Many guys make the mistake of spoiling a girl early on and once again it gives away our magnetic power?
Think of it this way?
If you meet a girl and she sleeps with you on the first night?
?and then sleeps with your friend on the first night?
?and then sleeps with your mailman the next night?
The value that you placed on sleeping with her goes down.
If you?re going to spoil a girl then make sure she is at very least your girlfriend first.
You don?t want to give away all the good stuff to just any old girl on the first date or else what else would she have to look forward to.?
DON?T GIVE AWAY ALL THE GOODIES ON THE FIRST DATE!
MAKING OUR INTENTIONS TOO CLEAR.
Women love solving mysteries?
?change my mind?
?It?s ok, I?ll wait?
If we are making our intentions too clear, then we can set ourselves up for the wrong magnetic energy?
?It?s like when you hold two magnets the same way and they repel each other?
By constantly reinforcing to her that we are interested in dating her, we are taking all the spontaneity and mystery out of the relationship.
We want to give her just enough so that she knows that she isn?t wasting her time with someone who isn?t interested in her?
?But also show her that we have value and we could walk away and go find someone else?
?Showing too much intention comes across as needy and desperate again and that?s NOT WHAT WE WANT.
Keep cookin Fellas,
About Van Bender Van Bender is a writer and coach specializing in becoming the alpha, the art of attraction and hacking the friendzone. Check out my website and subscribe for exclusive content Dayonedating.com