“You Already Know What I’m About”- On Managing Expectations
Ever since the whole Kristen situation spiraled (Horribly) out of control, I have been more anti-commitment than ever (It is possible believe it or not).
I also figured out how to get laid A TON with minimal (Sometimes never) telling the girl you like her. I’m still trying to piece together everything I’m doing that’s reproduce-able (The whole me being emotionally dead thing is hard to mirror) and here’s what I got.
This stuff is not very nice, and it shouldn’t be used with girls you’re OPEN to having a relationship with but if you want to avoid drama, commitment, neediness and emotions while banging lots of chicks, here’s some advice(I’m totally going to hell).
1. Qualify more for compliance than for compliments. When you REALLY don’t want the girl to get attached (Or at least to get over it quickly) qualification goes back to being a Mystery Method style phase as opposed to actually looking for what you want in a girl. The more you give specific reasons you like her the harder it’s going to be to keep her from catching feelings.
2. Be Busy. I actually am insanely busy with a Sinns of Attraction, a side business, kickboxing, friends and fucking other girls so that part wasn’t hard. If you’re not busy then you need to frame yourself as SUPER busy upfront to start to negate the demands on your time the girl will expect.
3. Lead with your “Not looking for a relationship” foot. I now start every date with an explanation of how AWESOME my single life is, and how much I like being single and am not looking for a relationship. Some girls will ACT like they’re not into this idea, don’t give up. Oftentimes PK (Post Kristen) I’ve been on dates where girls verbally disagreed with that yet slept with me anyway.
4. Don’t talk every day. Go several days without contact on a regular basis. Don’t establish a text pattern where she expects to hear from you every day or at a certain time. Don’t return texts or calls too eagerly.
5. Treat her really nicely. Be super gentlemanly, pay for (almost) everything, open doors, make sure she cums etc… By combining being a good guy with being upfront about what you’re looking for there is less for her to complain about both to you and her friends.
It doesn’t make you a good guy but maybe you’ll get preferential seating in hell near Stalin 🙂
6. Be a cold soldier. Every now and then girls will test you, by saying “I miss you” trying to hangout every day, getting you to meet their friends (You know stuff girls do when they like you).. This is where the word “No” is your best friend. You were upfront, there is NO obligation for you to do any of this stuff.
7. Don’t rub her face in the fact you’re dating other women. Don’t lie but don’t tell the truth either. She needs to know you’re dating other people. She doesn’t need to know how many, their names or anything like that.
8. Cut Needy Chicks early. I met a girl at CVS who was smoking hot. The issue was she was BLOWING my phone up 3-4 times a day before we even went out. I had to let that one go knowing that the lay would not be worth the headache that accompanied it.
If you’re trying to be happily single, cut needy chicks off as soon as the neediness starts. ESPECIALLY if you haven’t slept with them yet. It won’t get better.
9. Man up and tell them it’s over. At some point certain girls get annoying, or you get over it. Rather than just disappear, send a break-up text like
Hey, I’m not really sure how to say this, but I don’t think we should see each other anymore. I think you’re a really cool girl, but I just don’t see this going anywhere and I think we should both move on. Sorry. Jon
And there you go a beginner’s guide to keeping it moving. Which is what I do best.
About john sinn Sinn is widely regarded as the second best PUA in the world. Sinn is known for his hard nosed style and take no excuses approach to teaching. He is a nondenominational teacher, which means that he subscribes to no particular method and instead blends the best of every school of seduction to create the best possible results for himself and his students. Sinn is currently running his own pick up company The Sinns Of Attraction, which offers live, phone and email training.