Thought Binding: Every time you have a conversation with someone, especially hot sexy women, you should have an objective. Now with women, you want to leave an indelible impression of YOU upon their sub-concious so that no matter what, they’ll be thinking about YOU.
If you dont think this is important think about this. How many guys are out there are trying to get her attention? How many other thoughts are in her head fighting to be number one. Exactly!
Now the first key to understanding Thought Binding is to recognise that any thought you can verbalize can be binded into ones sub-concious. Once you tell the mind what direction to move, it will absolutely COMPLY EVERYTIME because people are not accustomed to hearing instructions constructed in this form. They are used to hearing reasons, data and facts, which they can, and DO resist.
You have to go a different route. What works is to bind the direction of her thoughts, sort of like a chain linking system, so that her mind is completely engaged in picturing and following the direction you want her to take. Let me give you an example. Suppose there is some sexy young seductress you want to impress. You could tell her lots of stuff about you and what you have, can do for her etc. You know, something dumb like:
“Well lots of women like me because I’m smart and funny and make good money. I have 20″ rims on my BMW. It can go from 0-60mph in like 30 seconds.”
Impressive. Guess what though mr player, you are tossing those facts, reasons and info at her, and like as not, she’s heard this a zillion times before and isn’t gonna buy it. If you must use an approach like this, why not bind the direction of her thoughts first? You do it like this:
“Hey, did you ever meet someone, and just instantly knew that you had to get to know this person better (point to yourself)? Maybe as you went inside and really got all excited about how much fun it’d be to get to know him and how curious and intrigued you were feeling? As you REMEMBER THOSE FEELINGS AS WE’RE TALKING, I’m just curious, do you first imagine how much fun they’d be to hang out with, and then get intrigued, or do you get intrigued first and then imagine how much fun this person would be (point to yourself)?”
Now, what are you doing here? You’re setting up a mood and state of mind that’s going to make her a lot more receptive by:
Having her recall what it’s like to be in the mood you want her in (setting up the thought direction).
Giving her a command to STAY IN THAT MOOD WHILE SHE TALKS WITH YOU by using the phrase “as you remember those feelings as we’re talking” (Binding the thought direction).
You’ve now set her up to be MUCH MORE RECEPTIVE to any “facts” about yourself you want to throw because you’ve set up and BOUND the direction of her thinking and emotional processes. From here on out, unless you are very stupid, she’s dead meat. And the beauty is THEY NEVER CATCH IT, cause they aren’t used to hearing it or looking for it. They just know they find you mesmerising, hypnotically fascinating and irresistibly attractive:) Notice also that we end by asking them about the order in which they did the process. That’s to further mask the fact that we are giving commands by making it seem like the only reason we brought it up in the first place is we we’re genuinely interested in learning about them! Ha! Are we sneaks, or what? By the way, the phrase “AS YOU REMEMBER”… is what we call a pre-supposition. A pre-supposition is just anything that HAS to be ASSUMED to be true in order for the sentence to make sense and be understood. Thus, with “AS YOU REMEMBER”, the presupposition is that they WILL remember. Slick, isn’t it?
Every decision people make is based in and dependent on their state of mind. If you don’t like their decision, change their state of mind before you try to change the decision. So the key here, is to set up the right state using some of the thought binding techniques we’ve discussed, but also to recognise, that if you’re getting resistance from a woman in the form of broken dates, calls promised but not made, etc., you need to back up and ask yourself the following questions:
# Hmmm. What state of mind is she in right now with regard to me? # What’s the final state I want her in? # How can I have fun transitioning her to the state I want her to be in when I pounce? You can think of this as building a chain of states, with the state she’s currently in as the first link, and the final state you want her in as the dog collar that’s gonna go ’round her neck! Let’s say she, for whatever reason, is in a state of INDIFFERENCE about going out with you. And let’s say the final state you want her in is DROOLING OF DESIRE TO BE WITH YOU. Bit of a gap, huh? What you need to do here is come up with a state in between as a nice transition, like say, curiosity or intrigue, using some of our thought binding/pre-supposition techniques. You could try something like this:
“You know, when we go out, I don’t know whether it will be an incredibly exciting adventure or just a wonderfully fun time, but it sure is going to feel good to laugh a lot, isn’t it? When you think about it like that, are you aware of how much more it makes you really look forward to doing it?”
With the included presuppositions you want her to feel the following:
That we are GOING to go out.
That it’s either going to be incredibly exciting or crazy fun.
That she’s thinking about it like that.
That we are going to laugh a lot.
She feels comfortable loking forward to doing it.
Now, does this sort of thing work? YES! IF… you deliver it with a smile and a laugh and say it like you MEAN it and expect that it’s going to work! See, you need to make your tonality and delivery convey that YOU presuppose a POSITIVE outcome for your entire communication!!! So, the rule is to ALWAYS presuppose a positive outcome in your communication and ALWAYS present a communication that forces her to presuppose accepting AND (and this is a VERY important “and”) ENJOYING IT! If you don’t link fun and pleasure she’s going to reject the entire communication!!! If you DO link pleasure and communication she won’t resist cause she WON’T WANT TO!!!”
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