Turning a Friend into a Lover
Turning Platonic Friends To Lovers
Ever have that one hot chick that is like a buddy to you…someone who probably hugged and embraced alot, trying your best to rub your wanting chest against her stiff nipples yet you can never figure out a way to get to that “friends with benefits” stage?
My friend you have a huge problem. Chances are you are looked upon as a “friend” and is never considered or even thought about sexually.
If you want to exit the platonic zone, you need to focus on two things. Number one, it can be done. And number two, you must make her crazy with jealousy.
If you have any moral hold ups or any mental roadblocks that will prevent you from doing it, then continue to listen to the girl of your dreams yap about some other dude that makes her horny. No self-respecting man should allow such emasculating events to occur, but it happens to many guys.
Like I said, it can be done. I’ve personally been on both side of the equation and I have personally experienced the effectiveness of it. Meaning I have had women that I regarded as not sexy enough to be romantic with, only to have them make me jealous to the point where I ended up sleeping with them.
Some of these sizzlinly hot women weren’t intentionally trying to make me jealous, but the effectiveness of doing it has nothing to do with whether the person was "actively trying” to do it or not.
It has everything to do with sexual value. Making someone jealous is one of the quickest ways to reestablish your sexual value. In the platonic situation, she is use to you showing her attention. Even if she isn’t feeling you, she still will be getting some good feelings from the attention you show her. Therefore, by showing that your interest in elsewhere (making her jealous), you are cutting off the platonic friend’s good feelings. She will be drawn to you on some level in a way she can’t explain.
For some reason, female friends love to talk about other guys to their male friends like he is one of their girlfriends.
Not only is this a fact, it’s an indication that you have zero sexual value in the eyes of your female friend, but shes taking time away from chicks you could be prospecting. (Ouch! That must hurt)
Here’s how to reverse that:
The key is to bring up another chick or a past experience with a chick with great detail. If you do it the right way, you will feel the momentum switch back your way.
Women want MEN and want men they can feel sexually attracted to. So remind her that you are a man, that you have great unbelievable sex with women who always want and desire your prowess. If you are giving her advice on how to approach the guy or seduce the guy, then you basically have the energy of a female. She likes that and values you as a “FRIEND”. Never give a woman you want advice on how to hookup with another dude. By doing this you’re only cementing in her head that youre basically one of her girlfriends.
Ever wonder why lots of women have gay friends? Exactly. They can gossip and talk about men, and act just like one of their girlfriends. If you really want to bang her in the worst way, it should offend you when she yaps to you about another dude. The next time she does it remain calm. You don’t have to externalize your emotions. You will be more successful if you just calmly let her speak and then when it feels like it’s your turn to talk, you can calmly mention your story. Be extremely descriptive and detailed – to the point where you can sense that it is making her hot and bothered. Mention all the details, all the hows, all the wheres, all the fun etc….especially if youre describing your last sexual experience.
This is where most of the points are scored. If your blurt out your story, cut her off, or show that you are frustrated with her talking about some guy, then you are not accomplishing anything. The idea is to increase your sexual value. Acting over-emotional will not accomplish that.
Here’s how to be real effective at the golden reversal. 1.) Be extremely descriptive in your story. You want your story to run through her head. Remember women love fairy tales, so they often exercise their imagination power by daydreaming and fantasizing.
2.)Be calm. Let her talk. Let her get it out of her system. Don’t over-react by screaming at her to never talk about other guys to you. Just let her talk and be calm. You’ll get your turn.
3.) You can use it to send other important messages (for example, you can talk about how a girl you are seeing seems like she can’t get enough sex from you. You get the idea.)
You will know if you were successful if: 1.) She accuses you of giving too much information or being too graphic – maybe you went too far, but you still got the job done 2.) She appears kind of withdrawn or there is a moment of silence – she is reflecting and absorbing 3.) She attacks your story or the girl in some way. It’s a defensive mechanism.
Keep in mind, the art of making her jealous works and it is very powerful. You can actually make a girl jealous within seconds of meeting her. Statistics have shown that jealous wives tend to be more sexual towards their husbands and will often make an extra attempt to look more beautiful.
Remember, this a just a tool that is very effective in reclaiming or establishing your sexual value. If you have no sexual value women will not want to sleep with you. The power of this technique when applied to the platonic friend is that she will not expect it, so you end up communicating a lot of powerful messages, and banging the you know what out of her :).
You can perform the art of jealousy in both direction.
Cultivating jealousy is kind of like strengthening your arms. You got to work the biceps (pull movements) and triceps (push movements). Therefore, the target female has to be jealous of your interest being displayed towards (pushing out) another female as well as being jealous of another female showing interest in you (pulling in).
Keep in mind, the beauty of jealousy is that the events can be perceived or loosely supported and they will be just as effective. I told this girl I was screwing for a while that I had this weird dream that I had sex with the lady across the street (who is super sexy). It worked like a charm. She actually begin to resent the woman, as if the woman actually had sex with me. She obsessed over it the whole day. Later on that night she put on an amazing sexual performance, as if to prove her point 🙂
I remember meeting this blonde while I was working at this company that had some of the hottest females i’ve ever seen in one work-place. I wasn’t in a relationship at the time, but my female coworker was. She was talking about her boyfriend and how wonderful he was, so then I started talking about this girl I was seeing. I didn’t necessarily take offense to the talks of her man, but shortly after describing the events with the girl I’m seeing, the co-worker appeared to get jealous. It was obvious. At the time I wasn’t trying to make her jealous, but shortly after we finished talking she scheduled an "appointment” in her book for us to hook-up.
Obviously nothing is guaranteed, but to greatly increase your odds, and ofcourse your value, to make sure that the friend laughs whenever shes around you. For example, if she smiles very hard, after a compliment, then that is an indication of her getting something out of it – even though she may be rejecting you on some level.
You want to maintain these good feelings she is getting from you over a certain period of time. This will get her addicted to those good feelings (and addicted to you, being that you are the owner of those good feelings). Then you want to cut off those feelings instantly and place them elsewhere. In other words, you want the friend to gain knowledge that you are persuing someone else. And it is more effective if the friend learns that some other female is persuing you.
Once your female friend starts showing interest in you, don’t be so quick to run in her arms like a little supplicating lost puppy does when he’s reunited with his owner. There’s plenty of resources out there that explain how to keep her interested, but the main thing you want to focus on is being nonchalant. That should take you pretty far
Do girls leave you confused as to whether or not they like you?
Let's face it. Girl's don't make it easy for you. She will often send mixed signals leaving you unable to tell if she is being friendly or flirty. If you read her signals wrong you risk rejection and embarrassment. Or worse, you blow it with a girl who wanted to kiss you.
Here is a simple and innocent move that will instantly tell you if you're in the friend zone, or if she's waiting for you to kiss her.
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About Bobby Rio I'm Bobby Rio, one of the founders of TSB. I tend to write about what is on my mind so you'll find a mix of self development, social dynamics and dating articles/experiences. For a collection of some of my favorite articles check them out.