Anchoring through Non-Verbal Sexual Cueing
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Humans â€“ nay, all mammals and smart animals â€“ are strange. When something happens, we associate it with our surroundings, whether there is a real connection or not. This is a very useful tidbit to know â€“ and to use to your advantage.
Pavlov was a smart guy
Have you ever heard of Pavlov? The Pavlovian response? Or his pets?
If not, check out what he did. He got a bunch of dogs, and surgically implanted tubes in their salivary glands.
This is what I want you to do.
Ha ha, Iâ€™m hilarious. No, Pavlov did this so he could measure a dogâ€™s saliva very accurately. And then he fed them. See how much slobber the thought of food produced.
You wonâ€™t be surprised by this: they produced a lot.
Then, Pavlov started ringing a bell before he fed the dogs. Soon enough, hearing the bell was enough to get the dogs salivating.
Even when he removed the food or didnâ€™t give it to the dogs, the bell produced just as much saliva as when they got the food.
Can you guess where Iâ€™m going here?
Pavlov, meet humans
Humans are the same. All animals with the intelligence to connect cause and effect are the same (even though in this case, that connection is false).
Thatâ€™s why Iâ€™ve got you performing these various exercises, and creating anchors. If youâ€™ve been working on them, by now you should know the anchors work. If you have an experience and something else is happening simultaneously, your brain is going to make that connection. We are pattern-sensing machines, and weâ€™re quite happy to create one where they make no logical sense.
This worked really well back in the day when a cracking twig meant something big was coming. Now, not so much. But the important thing is the instinct remains.
And you can make it work for you.
Let Human Nature Help You
How? Câ€™mon, you shouldnâ€™t need me to spell it out.
Alright, I will, just in case youâ€™re hung over at the moment. If a girl feels good around you â€“ for any reason â€“ that feeling gets TRANSFERRED to YOU.
This includes memories.
And, by the other token, if sheâ€™s spending her time with you reliving bad experiences, YOU become linked with those feelings.
SOâ€¦ you want to AVOID bitch sessions â€“ especially early on, when she doesnâ€™t have any feelings connected with you.
And you want to STIMULATE good memories and feelings as much as possible.
Letâ€™s take an example.
Turn Downers into a Positive
Say youâ€™ve just met a girl, and in the course of conversation she starts talking about a recent ex and a bad breakup. She starts getting upset and devolving into all the negative emotions that her breakup took her through.
You see her getting pissed, and while sheâ€™s getting pissed sheâ€™s seeing YOU.
What can you do?
Try saying something like this: â€œWow, it sounds like that guy really hurt you. Tell you what: pretend thisâ€ (pick up a piece of paper or something small and fragile like that) â€œis him. Now, crumple him up.â€
Chances are sheâ€™ll go at this with a relish thatâ€™s almost frightening.
â€œNow, put all your anger into this piece of paper (or whatever youâ€™ve got), and throw it away. Just rip it up, and toss it, and start fresh without THIS GUY bringing you down.â€
Sheâ€™ll move from the dangerous place of associating you with all those negative feelings, and instead associate you with the CESSATION of those feelings. Double whammy.
Using Positive Experiences to your advantage
Or letâ€™s say that a girl tells you she has a boyfriend. Youâ€™ll get that a lot â€“ both because attractive women often have boyfriends, and because thatâ€™s a great line to weed out the weak and the superficial.
You donâ€™t have to let it throw you. For one, she could be lying, and also, PLENTY of women are with a guy â€“ but not REALLY. They prefer it to being alone, but theyâ€™re still looking for the right guy for them.
Instead of walking away, you could do something like this:
â€œThatâ€™s awesome. I bet he really makes you feel good. Listen, my friend says when sheâ€™s passionate about a guy, she feels it in back of her throat, and it travels out the top of her head. Do you mind if I ask how it felt with your boyfriend?â€
Maybe sheâ€™ll say â€œWell, I felt this fluttering in my stomach, and it moved up to a lump in my throat.â€
As sheâ€™s saying this, sheâ€™ll be reliving the experience of her attraction. By the way, this works with any woman, if you just lead her through an experience of attraction.
Anchor the feelings to YOU
Then help her relive it AGAIN, and this time, ANCHOR it. â€œThatâ€™s really interesting, because itâ€™s nothing like my friendâ€™s experience. So, let me get this straight. For YOU, you felt it in your STOMACH (and now lightly touch her stomach), and it moved up into your THROAT (and trace the path). Is that right?â€
â€œYes, thatâ€™s exactly it!â€
And now sheâ€™s relived the attraction, but through YOUR NONVERBAL SEXUAL CUE TOUCH AND VOICE.
If she were a dog and you a bell, sheâ€™s drooling all over the place now.
A few more times throughout your time together, re-establish it. Talk about attraction and touch her stomach as you do. Talk about emotions evolving, and trace the path.
Donâ€™t Stop There
Get inventive. Use this sort of strategy as often as you can, for any sort of good positive feeling. Link it to yourself, or to an object that will cause her to remember you.
Example: â€œI had fun chatting.â€
â€œWell, tell you what. Take all the fun youâ€™ve had here, and put it in this. (Pick anything, absolutely anything small and portable will do. Ok, not a bloody tampon, but you get the picture.) Then, whenever you need it, you can pick this up and remember this time.â€
Boom. Instant nostalgia. Sheâ€™ll be thinking of you all day.
WORK at this
Now, getting this right takes a bit of practice â€“ itâ€™s easy to sound like some new age freak here, and you just might a couple of times.
But work with it. Make it natural. Learn to steer the conversation to happy emotions â€“ and the situations to exciting spots (hint: fear and heat both feel similar to passion and sex, physiologically) â€“ and you can stimulate powerful productive connections between good feelings and yourself.
And thatâ€¦ is a good thing.
If you want to learn how to use these nonverbal sexual cues to your advantage, check out my series Nonverbal Sexual Cuing, available in Ebook and Audio CD format. In it you will learn all the elements of my body language secrets of nonverbal seduction to turn yourself into the kind of man that women want.
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