How to End it With a Clingy GIrl
I thought the Derek Vitalio article below is so good in teaching us how to end it with girls. We all make the same mistake of trying to end it by becoming distant or cold. We all know that only makes them want us more. Try this out. And leave me a comment letting me know what you think.
How to end it with a clingy girl
Cut that Static Cling
Now, there is a greater risk you run with your new-found powers of seduction what I like to call the Rabbit Risk, after Fatal Attraction.
The woman you don’t want to see anymore, but she just won’t let go.
The problem is, most of us guys are, at heart, decent people, and we don’t enjoy going around stomping on hearts. In fact, most of us avoid it like the plague. Not only do you often feel rotten about yourself, but what a scene! Usually quite ugly and unpleasant.
So what do you do when you’ve attracted a woman, maybe fooled around, but you want to move on and she just won’t let you?
The best solution, of course, is careful screening BEFORE you hook up with a chick. I usually make jokes about her stalking me in the early going and watch her reaction. Most ladies will laugh and defend themselves, but every once in a while you’ll get a woman wh’ll say No, I’d never do that. But oh-my-god, my last boyfriend, he was like so mean and I wound up burning down his apartment and hanging a teddy bear outside the door with the eyes torn out, it was so funny (crazy jittery laughter).
RUN MAN RUN. I don’t care HOW hot she is, you ‘t need that kind of shit in your life.
But there are plenty of non-psychos who’ll just wear thin from general clinginess.
How You Can Get Out
The key to losing them? OUTCLING.
Everything you’ve learned here, reverse it. Don’t be playful and fun be sentimental and sappy. Call often WAY too often, hopefully while she’s busy at work and NEVER be the one to end the conversation. Make her get rid of you.
Time and again.
Never choose what you’re doing for your activities ALWAYS say something like I don’t know, what do you want to do? Watch her get all pissed off at you, but still make her make the choices.
Talk often about your perfect future together.
Write long sappy odes that go nowhere about your emotions.
Send many emails of the annoying sort, the kind which say things like I was making coffee and I remembered the time we had coffee, so I wanted to write you. Bye.
Whine about not seeing her more. Don’t complain WHINE LIKE A BABY WITHOUT A TOY.
In short, do all the things that drive you MAD about this kind of woman.
Now be careful here if you’ve got yourself involved with some desperate conservative girl who’s inexperienced and looking for a husband, she might be into this, and then you’re in BIG trouble.
But with almost all women, this kind of behavior is going to be a MAJOR turn-off. She might start letting the machine pick up more often (leave messages like the coffee email), she might stop promptly returning your calls, and then one day she’ll say something like Listen, can we talk? You’re a great guy and all, but
Bingo. Mission accomplished.
Trust me, if you devote yourself to the wisdom inside these pages, one of these days you’ll need this advice. Because you’re going to be one hot commodity, and you’re not going to have time for all the girls who want to spend their time with you. And some won’t get the hint.
Oh, one other pitfal the How’d I End Up With A Girlfriend? Conundrum.
Keeping it Casual
If you’re looking for a girlfriend, hey, no worries. But if you’re keeping your options open or trying to play the field or just looking for some fun while coming out of a long relationship, then you might have problems.
ESPECIALLY coming out of a relationship, because unconsciously you’re going to behave like you’re in a relationship with the next girl, whether you want to be in one or not.
So what’s the key? Aside from honesty about your intentions (which is a MUST and will defuse a lot of situations before they get started), you need to watch your contact.
Hey, the girl might be all into the sex friend thing right with you, but if you’re seeing her every other day, then she’ll switch into relationship mode, even if she doesn’t want to.
I find if you keep yourself to once-a-week face time and two or three short emails/phone calls setting things up you’ll be able to stay in that happy no-strings sex area. Much more than that, and you’re creating a HABIT of being together, and habits die hard.
Avoid these pitfalls as you apply the principles in Seduction Science to attract a steady stream of beautiful women into your life without unnecessary fear, anxiety or sleepless nights. You won’t have to be alone ever again.
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About Bobby Rio I'm Bobby Rio, one of the founders of TSB. I tend to write about what is on my mind so you'll find a mix of self development, social dynamics and dating articles/experiences. For a collection of some of my favorite articles check them out.