A Brush Up on the Push/Pull Theory
I`ve always been a fan of creating tension loops. The legendary PUA Swingcat, author of Real World Seduction,coined the term push/pull, which I find brilliant. I`ve probably posted this before, but I came across it recently and thought that it was definitely worth brushing up on. If you can master this you really will see results quickly
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One of the most effective ways I’ve found for generating massive amounts of attraction in women, emotionally compelling them to want and reach and chase for more of you, is what I call “Tension Loops.”
The best part of using Tension Loops is that they generate heaps of attraction in women regardless of your current looks, social status, or bank account.
A Tension Loop is when you do something to create unresolved emotional tension inside a woman, increase it, release it by bringing closure to it, and then spark it all over again.
Soap opera writers use Tension Loops to keep women enraptured in their fictitious dramas for months – sometimes years!
The structure is always the same. The soap starts off with some form of conflict or drama, sparking unresolved emotional tension.
Emotional tension increases up until the point of the climax. The tension, then, is released by bringing some resolution to the conflict or drama. And, finally, the show ends by sparking the tension all over again, compelling women to tune in for next week’s show.
Mastering the Tension Loop gives you the kind of power over women that, at first, might scare you. But if you’re thinking that this is what I wanted to share with you, you’re wrong.
So keep reading…
In a minute, you’re going to learn a special type of Tension Loop I call “Push-Pull.”
If you aren’t comfortable with the having the power to generate attraction inside the women you desire regardless of them finding you physically appealing, you might want to stop reading now!
What I’m about to reveal is Jedi mind shit. We’re talking Yoda power! And you don’t have to become Darth Vader to reap the benefits of Push-Pull. Every ladies man I’ve ever met uses some form of Push-Pull. Yet few are aware of what they’re doing.
Push-Pull is whenever you emotionally push a woman away from you and, then, emotionally pull her back in. Each Push creates an emotional space for each Pull.To get a feel for what I’m talkin’ about, think, for example, of your favorite junk food.
What if you went on a strict diet for several weeks, depriving yourself of giving in to that urge to chow down on your favorite food?
What would it be like to finally give in to your urge and indulge?
I’m willing to bet it would be more intense than if you hadn’t gone on your strict diet, yes?
Now imagine in the midst of enjoying your favorite food, a person yanking it away from you.
Annoying, yes? But I’m willing to bet, your desire for the food would grow exponentially.
Many women are natural Push-Pull artists. Over the years I’ve heard dozens of stories from hapless men about women using Push-Pull to pick them up by the scruff of their proverbial neck, slamming their bodies with back-and-forth and side-to-side motions into the ground.
My all time favorite story is the one about the gorgeous girl sleeping with a guy and then, after sex, putting his ego on steroids by telling him, “You’re the best lover I’ve ever had.”
Things, then, alas, take a self-esteem crushing turn for the worse when she undermines her praise with: “Actually, you’re the fourth best lover I’ve ever had.”
The poor guy’s confidence goes belly up as he struggles to move up to the number three slot.
We can use these psychological mechanisms without being an A-hole or a Jerk. The key is to make it playful and funny. Your intention should never be to hurt a woman. Your goal is only to mess with her a bit.
Do this and women will find you charming and attractive.
Here’s an example of this I’ve used probably over a thousand times. At some point while interacting with a woman I might take her hand and praise, “You have the most amazing smile I’ve seen tonight… It makes me feel so happy inside!”
She’ll usually respond with, “Thank you!”
Then I’ll count the fingers on my other hand and say, “You know what: actually there were four other girls with really amazing smiles tonight as well. Out of them, you have the fourth best smile. I’m going to call you number four.” And then I’ll push away her hand.
More often than not, women demand, “Nooo! I want to be number one!”
I’ll usually retort with, “Alright, I’ll promote you to number three for being feisty.”
Do women find this derisive and mean? Not at all (Note: once in while you’ll encounter a psychologically damaged woman who doesn’t think this is cute. She is the exception and not the rule. My advice: run Forrest run).
Most women find this funny, charming, and playful. More importantly, it generates attraction: the emotion of wanting and reaching and chasing for more of you.
Push-Pull is the crime de la crime of attraction tools.
Master Push-Pull and you’ll leave women no choice but to feel attraction toward you… even if they’re repulsed by your physical appearance.
Alas, my friend, because this is a short newsletter we’ve barely scratched the surface of Push-Pull.
Remember: All ladies’ men use some form of Push-Pull.
While ladies’ men make up a tiny sliver of the male population, they get 90% of all the women.
And most of these ladies’ men have no conscious understanding of Push-Pull.
But the few who are consciously aware of using Push-Pull harness the most power with women out of all the ladies’ men.
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