Living with Passion
Live With Passion
I originally sent this out to our newsletter recipients, but we’ve been having problems with the system, so I thought I would post this today.
The first time I heard that phrase it was from an Anthony Robbins CD. At the time, although I found it motivating, I didn’t truly grasp the concept of living with passion.
At first I tried to artificially create a sense of passion in my life. I used body language, physiology, and voice tonality to present a passionate looking man to the world. And as Sebastian Drake talked about in our recent interview with him, improving these things will create a sense of “passive value” for you… and eventually you might even begin to feel a bit more passionate in your day to day activities.
While improving areas of your non verbal communication may make you look and feel like a more passionate person, and are an excellent place to start… ultimately you still won’t be living with passion.
You may be asking; “what does living with passion have to do with improving my skills at attracting women?”
My answer is; Everything.
The greatest pickup artists in the world usually have a passion in their life greater than seducing women.
For Mystery it is his love of magic and showmanship, for Neil Strauss its his love of journalism, for Cajun and Mehow its theatre, for Tyler Durden its adventure, for Christian Hudson its entrenpeneurship, for Extramask its comedy…
What living with a higher passion does for each of these PUAs is it gives them a reason to exist other than picking up women. It gives them something to get excited about every morning. It gives them something fascinating to talk to about. It gives them something to strive for, something that gives meaning to their existence.
Six years ago I headed down to Buenos Aires, Argentina for a couple weeks to visit a friend. That trip ignited a passion in me that burns strongly to this day. Bobby Rio’s passion in life is traveling the world. My desire to see the world is stronger than my desire for any girl or to make any amount of money. In fact, it defines a lot of my criteria for jobs and relationships. I will never work a job that does not give me the flexibility to travel often (2 weeks vacation a year won’t cut it) nor will I date a girl who won’t just get up and go on a wild adventure with me.
How this relates to pickup and seduction
Since no one can ever take my love of travel away from me… I never attach excess meaning to winning or losing with a particular girl. My happiness is never defined by how many notches I’ve added to my belt. I live with a willingness to walk away from any girl…
And like Life Coach Justin says in his Build it and they will Come article, “this will help you have a strong basis for your self-esteem outside of your success with women, and that, ironically, this will attract women.”
Discovering and cultivating your passion is an area that we are going to discuss in much more detail during our Mansformation Weekend Retreat.
I think that the first step in cultivating your passion is to ask yourself, “If money wasn’t an issue, what would I be doing with my life?”
Really taking time to think about this question will begin to give you a deeper understanding into what internally drives you.
About Bobby Rio I'm Bobby Rio, one of the founders of TSB. I tend to write about what is on my mind so you'll find a mix of self development, social dynamics and dating articles/experiences. For a collection of some of my favorite articles check them out.