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It’s Time to Be the Hero in Your Own Movie


You’ve probably heard the saying:

All the world’s a stage, And all the men and women merely players.

Well, since hardly anyone cares about plays anymore lets rephrase that quote in a way you can really wrap your mind around its meaning. Let’s think of your life as a movie. And you’re an actor in the movie. And everyone around you is your co-stars.

There is a basic script that you’ve been following up until this day. The thing with this script is that there is no dictator-like director telling you what you’re next scene will be. In fact, the director has basically handed you the screenplay and told you that you can write the movie any which way you please.

And the best part is; if you start writing the script one way… and you don’t like how it’s going, you can crumble it up and throw it in the fire. And start again.

You can make this movie as big and spectacular as you like. Or you can make it a long, boring, and painful tear jerker.

You can fill the movie with beautiful co-stars, exotic scenery, and grand adventure… or the entire movie can take place in a dingy basement filled with hacks and has-beens.

You can make yourself the gallant and heroic leading man… or you can merely be a bit player confined to a few pointless and forgettable cameos.

Not only that… but the director has handed you control over every single aspect of the movie. You record the soundtrack, adjust the lighting, create the budget, design your wardrobe, and cast the leading lady.

Don’t underestimate the power of scenery, music, and lighting on the quality of the movie. Have you ever watched a badly lit movie with a horrible soundtrack? Depressing as hell!

Take the time to adjust these things to your liking. Experiment with the subtle elements of your life. Make sure that the scenes you are in are always well lit, with a great a soundtrack blasting in the background.

And for god sakes vary these things up. Nobody wants to hear the same song playing the entire length of the film. And the best films, the films you really remember, tend to span the globe. They take you on a long journey where you never quite know where you’re going to wind up.

If you’re going to live like the star of a kick-ass movie you have to pay attention to the details.  (Read more)

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  1. FredEx

    April 6, 2009 at 2:53 pm

    Good shiit Bobby.

  2. Noah

    April 6, 2009 at 3:01 pm

    Great perspective!

  3. Samuel McCrohan

    April 6, 2009 at 3:05 pm

    Awesome metaphor! I’m glad you added the bit near the end about not being selfish as I was going to mention that being chivalrous is a key trait to a movie ‘hero’. 🙂

    Recent Words from Samuel McCrohan..Managing a long distance relationship

  4. Sebastian

    April 6, 2009 at 3:14 pm

    This will be a very useful analogy and view to look at things. Type of thing we know but forget from time to time.

  5. Lumas

    April 6, 2009 at 3:56 pm

    “And the best part is; if you start writing the script one way… and you don’t like how it’s going, you can crumble it up and throw it in the fire. And start again.”
    Unfortunately (unless you´ve discovered a way to travel back in time) you cannot start again, just keep working on what was already there… and better hurry up finding your ideal script because the clock keeps ticking.

  6. Euro

    April 6, 2009 at 5:19 pm


    I thoroughly enjoyed the article. Leading role with lots of sex scenes is definately an ideal to strive for…;)


  7. jm

    April 6, 2009 at 8:39 pm

    Thanks for this. Really awesome. This article gave me a new perspective on things.

  8. Luicifer

    April 6, 2009 at 10:28 pm

    Good stuff! Now I only gotta figure out how to do a montage where long periods of training, studying or hard work are cut down to 3mins with a catchy background tune..

  9. Killswitch

    April 6, 2009 at 10:57 pm

    wow man…this is one of the best articles you guys have up here right now…great shit!

  10. PeteTheFreshman

    April 7, 2009 at 2:02 am

    Dibs on “Dude who gets shot #7” 😛

  11. John

    April 7, 2009 at 10:13 am

    This is an excellent article. I’m trying to get with this hottie right now so reading this article can only increase the chances of it happening. Thanks!

  12. Omar

    April 7, 2009 at 11:11 am

    Dope post. I am inspired. My goals is to live an exciting life. The first step is now. I’ve had my moments. Still have a lot more living to do…..

    Recent Words from Omar..A Plan B?

  13. Michael van Eckert

    April 7, 2009 at 12:09 pm

    Hey man,

    I have a saying for a couple of months now, it goes “life is so much easier, if you pretend it’s a funny movie.” This is probably one of the best articles about that issue that I’ve read since then.
    Keep it up,


  14. satan

    May 3, 2010 at 10:40 pm

    all lot of sex may also get you alot of stds.

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