Five Ways to Handle “Whisky Dick” and Avoid Embarrassment



The infamous “whisky dick”…

I can’t even count the number of perfectly good hookups that were cut short because of this unfortunate problem. For those of you unfamiliar with the term “whisky dick” it is slang for that embarrassing and awkward situation where we drink too much and can’t get an erection. I covered the topic of having trouble getting hard in great detail in an earlier post, but since this is a problem that plagues many more men that care to admit, I thought it was worth tackling again.

So the question is:

“What do you guys do when you get ‘whisky dick’ and can’t get hard?”

Here are some of the ways I have personally handled the situation, but I’d love to hear feedback on how some of you have handled it.

1. Pleasure Her

I usually know immediately if I’m not getting it up, and as soon I realize this I put my focus on pleasuring her. My game plan usually becomes pleasuring her to the point she is too exhausted for sex. You wouldn’t believe how well this works.

Most girls have an easier time climaxing from oral sex than vaginal, so they are more than willing to let you spend as much time as you like down there. Once you suspect she has climaxed you can wind down the foreplay and act like you’re too tired for sex. She’ll be more than satisfied and usually won’t press you to continue.

2. “No condom”

If I realize that I am not going to get an erection before I’ve gone to pull out a condom, I’ll usually claim that I don’t have any condoms. This allows me to avoid sex under the pretense that I refuse to have sex without protection (far from trueJ). Most girls respect the fact that you’re so responsible about using protection that they won’t question it.

Some girls will still want to “please you” in other ways. To avoid the embarrassment of her knobbing on my limp dick for an hour I’ll usually tell her that I can’t climax from oral and that it will only leave me with “blue balls” and we’ll just have to wait till next time.

3. “It’s too soon”

You get the “Chump of the Year” award for using this line, but sometimes it is the only way to save face. If it is a girl I’ve just started dating and I’ve yet to have sex with her, and I do NOT want our first time to be plagued with my trouble keeping it up, I would simply say, “It’s too soon.” But be warned…

While I’ve never used this line for “whisky dick”, I have used it once when I came before getting it in her and I wound up having to date the girl three months longer than I wanted to because she thought my withholding sex was because I really liked her. If she only knew…

4. The “Little Engine That Could…”

If I can hide the fact that I’m not hard from her for a bit, usually at some point I can manage to get hard enough for sex (As long as I don’t have to wear a condom.) I find in this situation it is a “mental game”, sort of like jerking off for the third time in a night. Sometimes you just have to find that perfect fantasy that wakes your dick back to life. So, yes, if you’re willing to keep trying, often you’ll get hard enough to have mediocre sex.  If the girl is as drunk as you are she probably won’t know the difference.

5. Be Honest

This is probably my least favorite way of handling it. The only time I do this is when there is no alternative. Sometimes a girl is just too eager for sex that she won’t take no for an answer. In this case, you might just have to bite the bullet and be honest with her. Here is the thing: most girls have experienced this before. “Whisky dick” is common. And any girl that has had a boyfriend for awhile has undoubtedly faced times when he couldn’t get it up.

So simply saying “I’m way too drunk to perform tonight” usually lets her know the deal.

It is embarrassing, but you can usually recover from this and have another opportunity.

Do any of you have any more creative ways to handle the situation?

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  2. Steve

    December 27, 2009 at 1:53 pm

    Man, I glad I came across this article. Everytime I drink Vodka it happens to me, I didn’t realize how common this is. I thought it was a personal problem with me.

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  4. Paul

    December 16, 2011 at 1:03 am

    How silly. The most obvious answer is the last one. Just be honest and tell her you are too drunk to perform. Why bother lying about something like this? Some of the alternatives you mention are borderline disgraceful.

  5. Ian

    December 31, 2011 at 12:46 am

    I think that if you are so drunk that you can’t get it up, it’s disgraceful to even persue sex with someone that night. How can you even consent to having sex with a new partner when you are that drunk? Similarly, how can you be sure that _they_ can fully consent to having sex with you? Sounds like a good recipe for sexual assault.

    Best advice: don’t get shit-faced drunk if you’re looking for sex! Problem solved. Stay in control of yourself.

    But apart from that, just be honest. I agree that employing some deception to cover for this is pretty disgraceful…

    • Sheriff

      March 21, 2013 at 1:28 am

      Well for me it happens even when i’m not completely plastered…If im just mildly drunk its 50/50 this happens to me. But maybe I’m in the minority there

  6. Josh

    January 8, 2012 at 7:58 pm

    Don’t listen to those fags up there. Great article, sometimes you dont want the bitch to know, or, your in the process of workin on it

    • lisa001191

      October 27, 2012 at 4:33 pm

      “you’re” not “your”
      Learn to spell, breeder.

    • Deb

      August 4, 2013 at 10:51 pm

      Hey coming from a girl that this has happened to in my relationship try using #1 first. Sometimes it works out better for you guys in the long run since the majority of you want sex the next day after a night of drinking

  7. Mung

    February 3, 2012 at 12:00 pm

    yeah josh is right, those guys are fags. The article is quite good. Glad to know i’m not the only one dealing with this.

    • lisa001191

      October 27, 2012 at 4:34 pm

      Sounds like you have a crush on Josh.

  8. Heather

    February 26, 2012 at 12:09 pm

    I have a horrible issue with thinking that I’m not sexy enough when this happens. I understand what happens but I just cant seem to get over feeling un-sexy after this sort of event.

    • Anonymous

      June 28, 2014 at 6:47 pm

      I feel I am not what he wanted .

  9. JoJo

    July 12, 2012 at 11:27 pm

    Pretty sad that being honest is the last resort. Shameful.

  10. Wolo Wolo

    August 4, 2012 at 3:18 am

    I’m gay and I’ve had this problem oh so many times… I really appreciate your tips and now I know what I’m doing tonight – as, yes, I’m already pretty wasted…Thank you so much!

  11. Lola

    August 4, 2012 at 8:18 am

    As a female, having had this happen to me several times I’d say if you can’t get it up, PLEASURE HER.
    If you do it well, she’ll leave you alone and pass out. 😉

    If not, BE HONEST. I can’t say how many times a guy has tried & tried and it just ends with frustration & dissapointment. Just say “I’m too drunk to have sex right now” and we’ll get it!!! It will be such relief for both parties. You dont want her to feel like she’s not good enough when it’s just your dick that just can’t perform. Trust me, we get it.

    • James

      September 4, 2013 at 5:27 pm

      I think you nailed it Lola. Sensible and practical advice. Just don’t drink as much next time you’re with the same gal or she’s going to think it it’s your dick and not the booze.

  12. Lola

    August 4, 2012 at 8:35 am

    As a female who has had this happen several times, I’d say that if you can’t get it up PLEASURE HER.
    Perform oral sex on her until she orgasms, if you do it well she will pass out & leave you alone.

    If not, the just BE HONEST. I really can’t believe it’s the last resort on here. To me, it would be more embarrasing to try and try all night and fail. It would just end in dissapointment for both parties. If you can’t get it up just say “I’m too drunk to have sex” because guess what? WE KNOW IT HAPPENS. It’s normal. So man up. There’s nothing to be embarrased about.

  13. Friggin kidding me..

    October 4, 2012 at 4:47 pm

    The reason honesty is right down rock bottom is not solely to save face for yourself.
    Often its just as much a case of not wanting the chick to feel unattractive so you bite the bullet and focus on the lady even though youre not getting nearly as much out of it.

    That and not all ladies are classy and as such dont know how the fuck to handle whiskey dick, few times had to kick a chick after she freaked out on whiskey dick even after giving her two orgasms and the truth..

    Never the fuck again, either she passes out after her first orgasm or im callin it quits for the night.

    Some men actually dont go looking for princess divas but a partner that equally has to respect you. Capiche?

  14. mr oppisite

    January 15, 2013 at 9:33 pm

    Anyone ever have the opposite problem….drink to much and wanna go all night? I dont have problem gettin it up but sometimes give up b4 finishing……also embarrasing

    • Georpht

      March 29, 2013 at 12:19 am

      Yup, way too often I have ended up faking an orgasm.

  15. Sheriff

    March 21, 2013 at 1:30 am

    I did #1 ad it worked really well…must have spent a cumulative time of around an hour down there…but hey, a heck of a lot better than nothing. I got to bang her a bit but i just realized it wasn’t gonna work…it was a shame too, she was about to ride cowgirl then i suppose realized and just stopped…oh well, i digress.

  16. Georpht

    March 29, 2013 at 12:18 am

    I scored some pills as a backup if I think this may happen.

  17. Greg

    June 2, 2013 at 6:46 pm

    Anyone think horney goat weed or any other prescription drug(cialis,vigeria,ect) would cure this ‘wiskey dick’?
    Perhaps if you had took them while imtoxicated or before?

  18. just some dude

    July 22, 2013 at 8:24 pm

    The #1 works wonders! Plus, while you are still on here, there are precious minutes that your body uses to get rid of the alcohol in your system. So if you are lucky, you *might* end up with a boner before you finish her. IT’S A LONG SHOT!!! but it just might work.

  19. Zach

    February 1, 2014 at 10:15 pm

    ya this shits happened to me before… trick i always use. kinda unorthadox, and dont how “safe” it is… Take a womans hairband, or rubber band ect, double it back and put it at the base of of your dick. blood flow will still be allowed in, but not out. only do this untill your hard enough to get it in though. pretty sure you could pop blood vessles if you keep it there to long.

  20. arxen

    March 16, 2014 at 6:57 pm

    Had this happen a night ago, iI ws fairly honest, said I drank too much, though morning the same.
    Still, pleasured her till she slept, though did not want oral, though I was than happy. Pretty disappointed though. I always out to drink, the one night someones interested in me and this happens.

    • Curious girl

      July 5, 2014 at 6:17 pm

      So I have a question I need to ask guys… My boyfriend and I had sex 4 times in two days, I was a little sore but not hurt. Well he thought he saw blood (which he didn’t) when we went to change positions. So after he rolled over he stopped and said he couldn’t finish because he had to pee too bad… Is this true, can this happen? or did he just freak out over nothing. I need a guys opinion!!!! It’s a newer relationship and I’m freaking out that he may not want to be intimate again, I’m hoping this can really effect a guy if they have to pee

      • ManEaster is in april

        January 13, 2015 at 4:47 am

        Are you still together?
        Maybe you have a big or bigger appetite than him. When I did a half marathon over a long weekend with a new girl and she’s still up for more and I was a bit sore… at some point I’m done mentally, then even hard I’ve switched to pee mode. Both times my impression it was mind over body- I was ready to get up and stretch, maybe eat something, drink some water, find a new chick… (j/k)

  21. Annestacia

    July 18, 2014 at 12:16 am

    I’ve had this happen with boyfriends before, and they were always honest about it, then proceeded to pleasure me. I’d say the combination of those two is the best option. Then again, a smart woman will know a flaccid dick when she sees one. Or feels one.
    and honestly women can experience “whiskey dick” of a sort as well; too drunk to get wet or find any pleasure in sex. It’s happened to me and I always told my partner that I really wanted him/her, but I was too drunk to enjoy it as much as I’d like to, so I’d rather just show them a good time. If they really wanted to make a big deal out of it, then their asses can hit the road and go fuck themselves. Literally.

    • Spike Jones

      October 5, 2014 at 11:58 pm

      Hey Anastasia … Thanks for that insight. I had a girlfriend who could drink me under the table and always have continuous Os. Amazing, At first I had performance anxiety with her, but things got cool and we always had a great time … When I did on the rare occasion not perform she was ok, knowing it would be better in the middle of the night or in the AM. But, then after that relationship passed on (her true object of her desire came back into the picture) I met a super-sexy girl who had esteem issues … she just didn’t think she was attractive enough. And it took her a while to come, and i could tell that her # 1 desire in that situation was to pleasure me. When we were both too tired/too under the influence, we were at an impasse. So in that situation honesty is a good policy.

  22. Hashmi Dawakhana

    October 18, 2014 at 2:10 am

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  23. Tom Hofman

    November 3, 2014 at 9:18 am

    Great post Bobby! A bit of alcohol can work wonders when approaching women but going too far can effect your erection. I never had that problem before though. If I were him I’d just be honest and tell her I’m too drunk to perform and wait a few more hours.

  24. DnaAngel

    February 14, 2015 at 12:03 am

    Or if you know you are going out to pussy patrol. I hold back on the liquor and pace myself and let her do most the drinking. That way you are more then able to get it up and perform.

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