Shaking It Off
A lot of this website’s content is dedicated to picking up women. From openers to closers and everything in between, TSB has you covered. Now I hate to break it to you, but if you’re actually taking the advice and implementing it correctly, more times than not you’re going to be turned down. Let me explain what I mean.
I don’t care how good you are, strictly in terms of numbers, more girls are going to turn their shoulders on you than go back home with you. You can do everything perfectly, and for a laundry list of reasons, things just won’t pan out. I know it might be blasphemy to say, but not every women wants to jump on your jock.
Here’s the catch: there is nothing wrong with that. It’s a fact of life.
Many people are able to shake off getting turned down and move on as if nothing happened. Most guys, including yours truly, however, often beat themselves up after getting the stiff arm. We keep replaying everything that happened and try to figure out what it is that we could have done better. We act as if getting turned down speaks to some deeper character problem within us. We get bogged down thinking that we are inadequate in some capacity.
If this sounds all too familiar, take a deep breath. When this happens slow down, back-track a bit and remind yourself that what you did was exceptional in some capacity. In my view, the hardest part of picking up a women is not picking the correct one-liner to use given the situation, nor the delivery of it, nor how to position your body. The most difficult thing to do is to actually commit yourself in the first place to putting yourself out there.
You should feel good about yourself for simply engaging with a woman whose name you didn’t even know five minutes ago; most guys have trouble even getting to that step.
Instead of getting down on yourself, give yourself a pat on your back for trying. Then, go back out there and start chatting up another girl, or just doing something else that will give you pleasure. In these situations, short term memory is the best type to have. For me that usually means refilling my cup with jungle juice, or taking another shot. After that I get back into the thick of things.
Does this mean I might on the road to premature liver failure? Well if I’m still trying to pick women up when I’m 40, then yes that has a distinct possibility of happening. At the very least for the time being, I’m stopping myself from getting completely consumed by useless thoughts that have the potential of ruining my night.
Find your own way to get over these little speed bumps. It doesn’t have to involve alcohol, but develop some fallback system so that you can stop yourself for drowning in a pit of despair; wallowing away in the corner is going to do you no good.
And if this article failed to inspire you at all, I’ll leave you with one of Nike’s classic Michael Jordan commercials: “I’ve failed over, and over, and over again in my life. That is why I succeed.” Couldn’t have said it better myself.
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About Mustafa Shaikh Mustafa Shaikh is an aspiring writer living in Berkeley, CA. Not willing to give up his college days just yet, he lives only a few blocks away from his beloved campus. He hopes to write a best-seller within the next couple of years and live off the royalties of it for as long as possible.