When Your Ex Comes Back Once You Get a New Girlfriend
You’re dating someone new and have moved on from your past relationship, when all of a sudden your ex-girlfriend comes back onto the scene. You may think you are being offered a choice between your past flame and your new relationship, but it’s a trap.
Don’t be fooled by your ex-girlfriend’s sudden enthusiasm. If she ended things, she’s not coming back because she’s coincidentally had a change of heart just as you’ve started to move on. It’s because she’s jealous and possibly hurt that you’re with another woman. While she doesn’t particularly want to be with you, she wants the security of knowing she can play you and have you back at any time. If you decide to ditch the new girl and give things another go with your ex, you’ll find she loses interest in you quickly.
It’s entirely possible to be friends with an ex, and it does take time to get to the point where you can have a proper friendship. However, it’s too much of a coincidence that she suddenly wants to be best buddies with you once you have a new girlfriend. If it seems like she is being nothing more than friendly, it’s probably because she wants to sabotage things with the new girl by fostering insecurity in her.
You know your ex is just trying to play you- don’t be sucked in. Don’t even try to play mind games with her in return. It’s important that you don’t give her the reaction she wants. If you don’t give much of a reaction to anything she says or does, she will soon get bored of trying to win your attention. Be polite to her- you don’t want to give her any undue attention, even of a negative kind- and be wary of getting too close. Be careful not to become entrapped in any discussions about your relationship or what could have been, or you could find yourself in a sticky situation where your ex threatens to tell your current girlfriend what you’ve said. She might tell you she misses you- this is a trap. Don’t tell her that you miss her too, even if it’s true. If she sends you messages along those lines, either don’t reply to them or give a vague and unsatisfying reply.
Keep in mind that there is a reason you’re not together anymore. If she suggests that she made a mistake and wants you back, tell her that the past is over, and leave it at that.
Your new girlfriend may be aware of your history, but that doesn’t mean she wants to know about it. When your ex contacts you, don’t tell your girlfriend. It will just create problems in your new relationship, which is what exactly your ex wants. Keep the new relationship insulated from the past.
Here is another article related to the subject: https://www.tsbmag.com/2014/09/09/how-to-make-her-stop-playing-mind-games/
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