Instantly Improve Your Text Game
Hey there TSBers! Today I want to get into something extremely important that MOST guys are actually really bad at…texting. More accurately, sexualized texting. In particular, I want to talk about the very first texts you send a girl.
The first thing you need to remember is that uou don’t need to get fancy with your text. You’ll see a million overly fancy texts that just aren’t necessary. The one I use is simple, “Hey its Jon and it was good meeting you today” and a smiley face.
Simple. Easy. Effective. Sometimes I’ll use, “Do you speak text?” or “This is Jon text me something cool” and other times I’ll make it personal to the interaction.
For example, one day I met this Asian girl at the grocery store and she was looking at pasta. The next day I texted her and asked if she ever found the pasta or what pasta she picked.
Just keep the first text simple. You don’t need to over think it.
The important thing to remember is that your first text is not going to determine whether she texts back. It’s the amount of interest she had in you when you got her phone number that’s going to determine whether she texts back or not. Everything from there is going to be determined by your text game.
You should also make sure that you are mirroring the girls time frame when texting back and forth.
What I mean by that is if the girl is sending texts 2 hours after, you don’t send a text 30 seconds after you get a text back from her. So if she sends in 2 hours maybe send it back in about an hour; if she takes 15 minutes maybe take 20 minutes and if she takes 2 minutes then take 2 minutes.
You want to basically mirror how she’s responding and you don’t want to text her right away if she’s not responding right away. But if she is responding right away you don’t want to ignore her and punish her for texting you a lot because that’s not good either.
The number #1 rule when texting is not to look needy. So never send 2 texts in a row without getting a response first.
Sure, sometimes you have to if you have made plans, and you need to make sure you’re still meeting up, or if you for some reason feel like you need to get some information or found something that you thought is so cool you thought she might like to know, then maybe you can send two. But for the most part 90% of the time it’s going to make you look needy and so it’s not a good idea.
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About john sinn Sinn is widely regarded as the second best PUA in the world. Sinn is known for his hard nosed style and take no excuses approach to teaching. He is a nondenominational teacher, which means that he subscribes to no particular method and instead blends the best of every school of seduction to create the best possible results for himself and his students. Sinn is currently running his own pick up company The Sinns Of Attraction, which offers live, phone and email training.