The Rules for Going Back to Her Place
It’s far easier to bring a girl to your place than it is to go to hers. You already feel comfortable in your own home and probably have a game plan in mind once you get her through the door. Stepping into her territory is another matter entirely.
Avoid surprises later by finding out about where and with whom she lives. If you’ve just met her, you have no idea if she’s going to take you back to her luxurious penthouse or to her parents’ basement. You probably don’t want to do it in her childhood bedroom or a shared dorm room. You can invite her back to your place instead if her residence is less than ideal. Even if you don’t have a back-up plan, at least you will know her living circumstances ahead of time so you can start mentally preparing yourself for the awkward exchange with her flatmate.
She might drag you straight into the bedroom, or she might sit you down for a coffee first. Either way, it doesn’t matter. She’s not going to lose interest if you don’t go straight for what you want. She’s obviously very keen on you considering she’s brought you home- so relax. You don’t need to take control of the situation. Don’t be too pushy. Let her lead the way.
I did tell you to relax, but don’t drop the ball altogether. You don’t suddenly drop your game the minute you walk through the door. Make it playful above all else. Keep flirting with her and teasing her, and she will love it. Once you’ve managed to get back to her place, there’s not a lot that can go wrong. One of you might change your mind, but if you keep the banter going that’s not much of a risk.
It’s easy to feel out of your element if you’re somewhere you haven’t been before. When you get to her place, it’s important that you don’t show it if you don’t feel totally comfortable. You’ll come across as reluctant, and she’ll wonder if you’re even that interested in her. Even if you’ve made it sufficiently clear that you’re into her, you being visibly uncomfortable isn’t attractive. You don’t want her to think you’re intimidated by being in a new setting. Act confidently even if you are a little thrown by being in her territory.
You could equally fall too far on the other side of the spectrum, and make yourself too comfortable at her house. You’re a guest at her place, so don’t go pouring yourself drinks in her kitchen or exploring the rooms of her house. Not only is it rude to act like you live there when you’re just there for the night, but it also makes you come across as being a control freak. It can even seem aggressive if you make yourself too at home at her place. Exercise common sense and act like how you think a guest should act.
Here is another article related to the subject: https://www.tsbmag.com/2012/06/04/when-she-wont-let-you-visit-her-house/
About Natasha Abrahams Natasha Abrahams is a writer and journalism student from Melbourne, Australia. When she is not busy with being a principal writer on Weekendnotes or skipping lectures, she can be found emptying her wallet at the nearest shopping centre. You can read more from Natasha at: http://mensstyleandfashion.com/