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Top 10 Mistakes That Guys Make with Girls

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THE TOP 10 MOST DEADLY MISTAKES GUYS MAKE WITH WOMEN

What I’ve realized from coaching men all around the world, is that most men make all kinds of deadly mistakes with women — without even realizing it.

You’ll really want to study these mistakes because quite often the fastest way to improve your results IMMEDIATELY is to stop doing the little things that might be sabotaging your interactions with women right now.

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Now let’s get started…

MISTAKE #1: Making Your Move Before She’s Ready

We’ve all been there…

You have these intense feelings for a woman, and you think “If she only knew how I felt, she would like me back”…

And if you’re like most men, you’ve tried this, and you realize it NEVER works in your favor. In fact, the very act of telling her your ‘feelings’ can be a huge turn-off to women.

It’s much more effective when SHE makes the first move, that way you can sit back and let HER do most of the work.

In fact, a girlfriend of mine just said this to me the other day:

She said “I’d rather be IN LOVE with a guy than BE LOVED by a guy.”

It might be counter-intuitive, but when you’ve seen the research on the differences between men and women, you realize it’s simply our biological programming.

Women are MUCH more turned on when they are the ones chasing YOU instead of the other way around

(Not to mention, it’s a whole lot easier too…)

MISTAKE #2: Focusing Too Much Energy On Your Skills In The Bedroom

This used to be a huge insecurity for me…

A few years back, I went through a pretty bad breakup…

And because my ex girlfriend never told me the real reason she lost interest, I assumed it was related to my “performance” in the bedroom…

I got pretty depressed about the whole thing, and it really hurt my self-esteem.

It wasn’t until recently I realized I had it all backwards… Pleasure starts in a woman’s MIND… Not in her body…

In fact, the first time I had a woman attracted to me on a deep, primal level using Pandora’s Box, I was able to get her off OVER THE PHONE!

MISTAKE #3: Thinking Attraction Is Based Mostly On Looks

Ever seen a really ugly guy with a smoking hot girlfriend?

Of course you have… We’ve all seen it happen…

And even though I’ve seen it dozens of times growing up, I STILL used to think that attraction was mostly about looks.

Yet — it wasn’t until I was able to get a smoking hot girlfriend for myself that I was actually able to shake this belief…

I’m pretty sure the reason why men think this way is because that’s how WE become attracted…

We see a hot girl with a great body, and hell… we’re ready to get married!!

And so logically we assume that attraction works the same exact way for women… But it doesn’t. Not by a long shot…

In fact… if you’ve ever had a woman who liked you but then changed her mind because you said the wrong thing…

…it’s basically the equivalent of being with a smoking hot girl who suddenly gets 30 years older, gains 100 pounds and grows a beard!

Yup it’s THAT important…

I’d rather be a bald, overweight, 75 year old guy with a deep understanding of the female mind than a tall, athletic male model ANY DAY OF THE WEEK!

(Sure, everything else being equal, a chiseled jawline and ripped abs will help, but it’s more like icing on the cake… Without the actual cake there’s only so much of it you can handle before you throw up!)

Because let’s face it… no matter how tall, ripped and good looking a guy is, he’s still REPULSIVE to a woman if he doesn’t have a basic understanding of the psychology of attraction…

MISTAKE #4: Chasing Women and Showing Too Much Interest

Flirting and teasing are the sameWhen someone says the word “chasing” it’s very important that you understand what it means.

When you’re talking about dating, the word chasing is basically understood to mean EMOTIONAL chasing…

So this could mean anything from calling or texting her too much, buying her too many unexpected gifts, or even giving her too many compliments…

It’s more of an ENERGY thing above anything else… It’s something that women can feel.

And trust me, women are VERY sensitive to this type of thing.

When a woman senses that you’re CHASING HER, here’s what goes on inside her mind:

“Ok. It’s pretty obvious I’ve got this guy wrapped around my finger. And yeah he might be a decent guy, but because I can have him whenever, I’m going to see what else is out there first…”

You have made yourself one of her OPTIONS… And let’s face it, if she’s an attractive woman, she has plenty of options.

After getting to know many attractive women in my own life, I’ve realized something that would shock most men…

The average woman has no less than a THREE guys who are chasing her at any given time in her life… (and if she’s actively going out and meeting people, the number can be MUCH higher!)

That’s why it’s so important for you to be the ONE GUY that’s so valuable that SHE CHASES YOU…

MISTAKE #5: Not Understanding How Women Think

You probably already realize that men and women think VERY differently from one another…

A man and woman can have two completely different impressions of the same exact experience!

I remember getting stuck in an elevator with a girlfriend a couple months ago, and after we got out, I realized that while I was like focused on logical things like how to get the doors open, or how to get peoples attention if it was stuck for a long time…

She was immersed in the different emotions of the experience! She was experiencing fear, and at the same time, forming an emotional bond with me and the other couple in the elevator based on all of us sharing a scary situation together!

The point is, while men’s thinking is dominated by logic and reason, a woman’s mind is dominated and directed by EMOTION.

And quite often, her thoughts and feelings don’t even make sense to HER!

That’s why having a man who TRULY understands the female mind on a deep level is SO RARE AND VALUABLE to her…

…just like having a TOP MECHANIC is extremely valuable to a RACE CAR DRIVER…

And even though Pandora’s Box was initially created to develop mind reading tactics, it comes with a STAGGERING side effect…

You’re going to know her EVEN BETTER THAN SHE KNOWS HERSELF…

In fact that’s a big part of what I talk about in this video

Ok moving on…

MISTAKE #6: Impressing Women And Bragging

Flirting Girl AloneI get it…

You work hard on something, you want to be respected for it, right?

Yeah of course, we’re MEN. That’s what we do…

We get a promotion at work, we make some money, get some nice things, or we create something amazing, we want to let people know about it!

That’s fine! You are certainly entitled to get your fair share of recognition…

But there’s one big catch:

NEVER brag, or try to impress the woman you’re trying to attract…

WHY?

Because to a woman, this comes off like a HUGE insecurity… (or an insecurity about something that’s not huge at all, if you catch my drift)

And even if you think you’ve got the most clever way of indirectly letting her know… DON’T DO IT!

She’ll smell it a mile away… Women have a ‘sixth sense’ for male insecurities.

Trust me on this one…

(check out the 3 questions that turn a girl on)

MISTAKE #7: Waiting For ‘Destiny’

Don’t laugh…

Now I’m not sure if it comes from watching too many romantic comedies or listening to my mom…

As a young man growing up, I kind of always had it in the back of my mind that ‘the one’ would just someday magically show up in my life…

I’m dead serious here…

I really believed that if I just focused on my own life, at some point when I was spiritually ready, my soulmate and I would bump into each other through some random chance and live happily ever after…

What a crock!

The ONLY WAY you’re going to end up with that AMAZING, woman who’s totally compatible with you is to GET EXPERIENCE dating several different women so that you can CHOOSE the one you like best!

Ok ok… Now before you start calling me cynical, on some level I can agree…

YES, it’s totally possible you’ll bump into your soulmate while you’re out grocery shopping or at the mall…

But when you do…

Don’t you think you’ll have a much better shot at getting her if you know exactly what to say?

Yup.

MISTAKE #8: Being The Nice Guy

When I was really struggling with women and frustrated with dating this confused the hell out of me…

How come women are always talking about how they just want to find a “NICE GUY” but somehow always end up stuck with abusive losers and jerks?

It never made sense to me… until recently that is.

I was out at a party with my girlfriend and a few of her friends…

And after a couple drinks her best friend started COMPLAINING about all the jerks she was dating, and how she just wants to find a NICE GUY…

I asked my girlfriend about it later, and here’s what she told me:

“Oh yeah, that’s just what girls are supposed to say. It makes us look sweet and vulnerable to want a nice guy… but the truth is, women don’t FEEL ANYTHING for nice guys. So most of us would rather date a jerk.”

Fortunately, you don’t have to be a jerk to trigger powerful emotions in a woman…

MISTAKE #9: Making Excuses For Yourself

(Too Broke, Too Short, Too Bald, Too Old, etc…)

Sometimes when I’m coaching clients, they’ll say things like this:

“If only I were taller meeting women would be easier… If only I lost 20 pounds meeting women would be easier… Once I get my hair transplant, THEN I’ll start meeting women…”

And part of me relates to that because when I used to struggle with women, making excuses somehow made me feel better about getting rejected, or not getting the girl I really wanted.

I guess in my mind it was somehow not my fault, and instead it was this external thing I really didn’t have control over…

If you look back at the history of Pandora’s Box, you’ll realize that most of the guys who did the original research were some pretty old scientists and college professors…

Old… Nerdy… Totally out of shape… Most had no hair to speak of, and I think one of them was even in a wheelchair…

Well these guys still wanted to date all the hot young college girls in their classes. They designed Pandora’s Box to be the great equalizer… They wanted something that could give them a leg up on the tall, muscular basketball players and the pretty boy rich kids who’s parents were paying their tuition.

Look, every guy on this planet has SOME disadvantage, but at the end of the day, the guy who ends up with that awesome girl you’re thinking about is going to be the one who TAKES ACTION without making any excuses for himself.

MISTAKE #10: Not Getting Help

As men we don’t like to look helpless or weak. Most guys won’t even stop to ask for directions when they’re lost!

A few years ago I had some kind of ‘pride’ in trying to ‘figure it all myself’…

Sure, I had friends who were good with women, but they were the LAST people I wanted to ask for help… Not being able to get a girlfriend is embarrassing enough!

I remember the day I asked out a female friend of mine I had a crush on, named Katie.

My buddy Jimmy offered to give me some advice… And I told him no, it’s ok “I got this.”

So I called her up, and when she answered, I asked her if I could take her to dinner sometime… She said “Sure, why not?”

And I said “No… I mean… As my date.”

And she started laughing… She thought it was a joke! I played along, but we both knew the awkward truth of what was happening. And by noon the next day, all of our mutual friends knew exactly what was happening too…

So yeah, it was embarrassing, but if there’s one thing I learned is that you don’t get better from getting rejected over and over.

Making the same mistakes over and over only leads to more rejection…

And most men who never seek out advice from an expert never really improve — in fact, most of the time they only get more fear, more anxiety and more nervousness as they get older.

Now I’m at the point where I know exactly what triggers turn women on… I know exactly what makes women fall in love… and I have no problem meeting women when I’m out with my friends, or running errands for that matter.

I know how to get phone numbers, I know how to get women to ask ME out on dates, and right now I’m seeing more women than I have time for…

The quality of my life has improved, dramatically. I no longer experience that horrible fear that I might end up alone for the rest of my life. I know how to attract women, and I know how do to it any day of the week.

And all of that was possible thanks to Pandora’s Box. It’s helped hundreds of guys and I’m sure it can help you too.

It’s the first system that shows you how to use ‘innocent words’ to get women so turned on that they chase YOU. And when a woman makes the first move, it’s practically impossible to get rejected.

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About Vin DiCarlo

Always a rebel with a unique point of view, Vin DiCarlo invented many of the most effective techniques out there, today. His students are some of the most successful and respected in the world. For more information, including how you can get more information - for free - Click Here to watch the Mind Reading Video.

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