How Nice Guys Can Pull the Naughty Girls
Have you ever known a really hot girl and the guys she?s attracted to just seem like douchebags?? I?m sure we all know at least one. ?Well that?s because THEY ARE douchebags and SHE IS attracted to them.
You?ve probably wondered why in hell some hot girls keep going for douchebags and fvckboys, getting their feelings hurt, and then keep going back for the same piece of shit guys.
More importantly, we?ve all been the guy who has to listen to a girl complain about how shitty these guys are but never get a chance to give the girl what she truly wants?
?A nice guy?
I?ve cracked the code and the good news is that the GOOD GUYS can still pull those BAD GIRLS and they don?t have to sacrifice their morals becoming a fuckboy to do it.
Why Women are Attracted to Douchebags
Believe it or not, women are not dumb for going after the douchebag time and time again even though it never turns out to be good in the long run.? Women are attracted to certain qualities that many douchebags have.
There are a few things on the exterior that will attract women and could even get a guy laid but wont likely keep her around for the long haul.? Many Douchebags have at least one of these characteristics.
Women are drawn to three very important things no matter what:
Most fuckboys have at least one of these things going for them and it?s usually one or both of the first two.
The first two?physical attraction and high social status?can come naturally to some people and that?s why it seems like they don?t have to try hard to attract women?
Some of us aren?t blessed with a granite jawline and a six pack so we?ve got to be a little more tactful.
BEFORE we go any further, I always encourage guys to work on what you can change.
If you know you?re over weight and that?s not working in your favor, then don?t make it harder on yourself.? Work on losing weight.
If you still dress like you?re in high school and it?s not working in your favor?update your wardrobe.
Get your haircut every couple of weeks.
WASH YOUR BALLS EVERYDAY.
Women are not attracted to lazy careless guys.? If you look like you don?t give shit about yourself then guess what?
SHE WONT EITHER!
How the Good Guys Get the Bad Girls
You?ve gotta focus on the third attractor:? DEPTH OF CHARACTER
So what the hell that means is you have to keep the girl guessing and trying to figure you out.? The easiest way to do this is to create contradictions in you character that keep her interested.
If a guy has a soft spot for kittens you might think he?s a bitch right?…
Unless that guy happens to be a big masculine guy that you wouldn?t expect to like kittens.? Then a girl might perceive it as, ?he HAS A GENTLE SIDE and isn?t just a big meat head?
So maybe you?re not a big masculine guy.? Let?s say you?re skinnier and less masculine? but you work out at a boxing gym or train jujitsu.
So instead of Peter Parker, you?re Spiderman.? Maryjane put Peter Parker in the friendzone and was making out with Spiderman.
BE LIKE SPIDERMAN?
The trick is that you can complement your strengths by contrasting them with vulnerability and build up your more vulnerable attributes by adding a little grit to them.
You can do this with the clothes you wear, the car you drive, the way you speak, pretty much anything?
Always have a side of you that she never would?ve guessed, and she?ll want to keep perusing you to try to figure you out.
If you?re one dimensional and easy to figure out then the girl is eventually going to lose interest in you and cheat or leave, no matter how good looking you are.
?Jason Momoa is the only exception.? Ask any woman and she?ll tell you?
So unless you?re Aquaman then you better make yourself interesting.
The reason that the world?s most interesting man got all the girls in those beer commercials is not because he was young and extremely handsome?
?It?s because he was THE WORLD?S MOST INTERESTING MAN?
About Van Bender Van Bender is a writer and coach specializing in becoming the alpha, the art of attraction and hacking the friendzone. Check out my website and subscribe for exclusive content Dayonedating.com