Using Cold Reads for Pickup
Yesterday I talked about how the best way to talk to younger women is to talk about them. One of the ways that I mentioned talking about them was making declarative statements or cold reads.
Cold reads are something that is discusses a lot in regards to picking up women. And there is a reason for that… because cold reading works.
Once you’ve opened a girl you need to move into a transition phase. In the classic book Magic Bullets they outline 4 different types of transitions.
Cold reading is my favorite and the one I want to talk about.
Cold reading is basically telling someone something about themselves as you see it. There are great conversation piece because the person will usually immediately tell you how well your description fits. Cold reading is an art… it takes practice.. trial and error.. but you’ll find that after awhile you’ll begin to be able to make spot on “generalizations.”
Here is a sample cold read created by Bertram Foyer, who they discuss a lot in The Love Systems Routine Manual. You’ll see that although its quite general, as you read it you’ll be able to see how many of these remarks can apply to anyone:
“You have a need for other people to like and admire you, and yet you tend to be critical of yourself. While you have some personality weaknesses you are generally able to compensate for them. You have considerable unused capacity that you have not turned to your advantage. Disciplined and self-controlled on the outside, you tend to be worrisome and insecure on the inside. At times you have serious doubts as to whether you have made the right decision or done the right thing. You prefer a certain amount of change and variety and become dissatisfied when hemmed in by restrictions and limitations. You also pride yourself as an independent thinker, and do not accept others’ statements without satisfactory proof. But you have found it unwise to be too frank in revealing yourself to others. At times you are extroverted, affable, and sociable, while at other times you are introverted, wary, and reserved. Some of your aspirations tend to be rather unrealistic.”
Imagine delivering that to a women as a chance observation. You think she’ll be intrigued?
Below is another cold reading routine create by Mr. M and published in The Routines Manual:
Eye Angle Transition
This routine works on the theory that eyes that are slanted downwards come across as caring and empathetic, whereas eyes slanted upwards convey a more sincere but fierce impression.
You can use this routine at any point during your opener; even interrupt her at any time to start this one.
Thats really interesting.
Did you know that if your eyes slant downwards your first impression tends to be empathetic and approachable whereas if your eyes slant upwards people tend to think youre fierce and unapproachable?
There are two options from here:
If her eyes slant down Do you find that people are generally friendly towards you but you really only let a select group of people become really close to you?
Or:If her eyes slant up “ Do you find that people dont always open up to you straight away and you only let a select group of people become really close to you anyway?
(She responds.)Yeah, you seem like the sort of person that enjoys having friends but only lets a few people into the inner circle. Im the same way.
Using a routine like this is a great way to keep a girl interested in talking to you. Although its nothing extraordinary it will be a breath of fresh air to a girl that has heard the same tired pickup lines in a bar all night. Plus you’ll be showing that you have an understanding of her world. And as they teach in Magic Bullets, that is a great way build higher value.
Do girls leave you confused as to whether or not they like you?
Let's face it. Girl's don't make it easy for you. She will often send mixed signals leaving you unable to tell if she is being friendly or flirty. If you read her signals wrong you risk rejection and embarrassment. Or worse, you blow it with a girl who wanted to kiss you.
Here is a simple and innocent move that will instantly tell you if you're in the friend zone, or if she's waiting for you to kiss her.
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About Bobby Rio I'm Bobby Rio, one of the founders of TSB. I tend to write about what is on my mind so you'll find a mix of self development, social dynamics and dating articles/experiences. For a collection of some of my favorite articles check them out.