Five Reasons You’re Still in the Friend Zone
Despite your best efforts to claw your way out of the friend zone, every time you try to make a move you find yourself pushed further in. But it’s not a hopeless situation- some of the most common reasons why guys find themselves in the friend zone are easily fixed.
You could look like Brad Pitt and still find yourself squarely in the friend zone if she’s disgusted by the way you talk about other women. She’s never going to consider getting with you if you talk up your sex life and badmouth women that you’ve been with. Of course she doesn’t want you to talk about her like that, so she will vow to herself that she’s not going to give you a chance. All you need to do to fix this is stop talking about women like that, and once she’s realised you’ve changed she will hopefully see you in a different light.
There’s mutual attraction, but nothing is happening between you. This is because neither of you is making a move. Perhaps she is waiting for you to make the first move due to out-dated ideas about men’s and women’s roles. It’s so easy to get out of the friend zone if this is the only obstacle- all you need to do is make the first move. Being her friend should give you ample opportunity to do that.
Following on from the last point, it’s possible that she is harbouring secret feelings for you but has no idea that you’re interested in her. She might think that you’ve put her in the friend zone rather than the other way around, and doesn’t want to risk the embarrassment of pursuing you to only to find out that you’re not interested. You need to make sure she knows you’re attracted to her, without being too obvious.
It’s incredibly unappealing when a man complains that there are no good women out there willing to give a nice guy like him a go. If you need to say that you’re a nice guy, you’re probably not. If you’re not interested in the women that are interested in you, don’t complain that you can’t get with anyone. She’s going to be put off by you complaining about how women won’t give you a fair go.
The number one reason you’re still in the friend zone is because she’s not attracted to you. You still look just the same as you did when she first banished you to the friend zone, so she’s still not interested. Now, I’m not saying you should change your face to impress your lady friend, but there are ways of making yourself seem more attractive. You can tweak the way you dress, the way you carry yourself, maybe get a better hairstyle. Doing these things will hopefully make you more attractive to women in general, so it’s not like you’re putting in a ridiculous amount of effort to impress one girl. However, being in the friend zone means you have another trick up your sleeve to make you more attractive. As her friend, you have the advantage of being able to use your personality to make her like you. If you have an attractive personality, that can compensate for other shortcomings.
About Natasha Abrahams Natasha Abrahams is a writer and journalism student from Melbourne, Australia. When she is not busy with being a principal writer on Weekendnotes or skipping lectures, she can be found emptying her wallet at the nearest shopping centre. You can read more from Natasha at: http://mensstyleandfashion.com/