How to be the Kind of Asshole That Women Want to Date
Men complain about how women will only date assholes while completely ignoring all the great guys out there. Of course, they always count themselves as one of those nice guys. While there is some truth to the idea that women only want assholes, you won’t win over the ladies by being horrible to them. There’s an art to it.
The quintessential asshole is charming and he knows it. This is what most women are attracted to. They enjoy the company of a man who is in command of himself. In contrast to the men that complain about missing out on women, the asshole doesn’t really care if he gets the girl or not. He won’t blame others for his failings with women. An asshole understands that he needs to impress a woman with his charm- he knows that she won’t fall into his arms if he shows a baseline level of being a decent human being. No self-respecting woman will date a guy that sees himself as entitled to her just by being nice. When women go for men who are known to be a little mean, it’s usually not because she enjoys that side of him. Rather, it’s because it comes with a certain confidence that the shallow end of the dating pool lacks.
There are some women that are attracted to men who can be callous and mean. But, unless she has some serious issues forming relationships, no woman wants her guy to be horrible to her. She might find it entertaining or endearing when he is an asshole to other people, but she won’t like it when she is on the receiving end. If you’re going to play at being the mean guy, you need to know when it’s appropriate.
Men who fancy themselves as nice guys that decide to put on the asshole mask usually end up as an amalgamation of the worst traits from both personality types. Rather than focusing on being more inconsiderate, make it your mission to get rid of any residual nice guy traits you have. Things like doing favours for her and expecting her to fall for you in return, complaining about how you can never get women because you’re too nice, taking every rejection as a sign that women are conspiring against you… all these traits have to go.
Desperation kills the charm of the archetypal asshole. You need to act like you don’t care if you get rejected. Making her feel like you’re indifferent towards her will make you look less like the desperate guy who wonders why women don’t like him. It will also give her the excitement of not really knowing if she can get with you or not, inspiring her to try her luck and find out. Acting nonchalant is the hallmark of the asshole, and it’s one of the key traits women find attractive.
About Natasha Abrahams Natasha Abrahams is a writer and journalism student from Melbourne, Australia. When she is not busy with being a principal writer on Weekendnotes or skipping lectures, she can be found emptying her wallet at the nearest shopping centre. You can read more from Natasha at: http://mensstyleandfashion.com/