9 Tips On How To Make A Girl Feel Special


It’s all good being charming and attractive, but if you can’t make a woman feel special, she’ll resent you.

At best, she’ll see you as a selfish player. At worst, a putz.

While it’s possible to string women along for a while like this, she’ll eventually wise up and leave.

Making a woman feel special is simple, but somehow a lot of men do it wrong. Many believe that throwing money or romantic words at a woman is all it takes. While this can help, there are other actions that go a long way to making her feel loved and cared for.

Below are nine tips to make a woman feel special. If she asks, you thought of them yourself…

1. Unique compliments

The catwalk model is sick of being told she’s beautiful, or that she has a great smile. She hears that all the time and so do all her colleagues in the fashion industry.

Try coming up with a more detailed reason why you’re attracted to her. Ideally, it’s about her personality.

Cold reads are a great tool if you haven’t got to know her yet.

“You seem like the sort of person who is…” should spark her curiosity better than “you’re gorgeous”.

2. Show vulnerabililty

Men tend to put on a ultra-masculine front when meeting new people, especially beautiful women, but showing vulnerability is a great way to make her feel special.

Emotions and weaknesses can be sexy when you unashamedly own them. It shows you trust her and value her opinion on sensitive subjects.

You shouldn’t necessarily dump all your problems on this new person, but a couple of personal stories can help you build a strong connection.

3. Listening

In a perfect world, this wouldn’t be enough to make anyone feel special. However, the truth is that the average dude doesn’t actually listen to anyone they’re speaking to. They’re too busy being distracted or thinking of their next thing to say.

If you show you’re a good listener and ask thoughtful questions based on what she’s said, this is enough for her to see you care.

4. Thoughtful gifts

Presents don’t have to be expensive to make an impact on people. If you can find a gift that shows you’ve remembered what a woman likes, that can go a long way.

Anything that communicates: ‘I saw this and it reminded me of you’ proves she’s on your mind, even when she’s not around.

5. In-jokes

An in-joke, based on a unique experience you shared together, helps to create a bond between the two of you. A pet name that no-one else calls her has the same effect.

6. Choosing her over other people

If you’re choosing to spend time with her over other friends or activities, this should help her see how special she is to you.

7. Win over her friends and family

For most young women, the approval of her friends means everything. If her friends don’t like you, you’ll be fighting an uphill battle to build a lasting relationship with her. For family-orientated girls, acceptance from her parents and siblings would mean the world as well.

If you can understand this and put in an effort to make these people like you, this will show you care about her.

8. Accepting her at her worst

Women ultimately want a man who will love her when she’s make-up free and feeling sad, as well as when she’s looking flawless in a cocktail dress.

If you show affection towards her during the good times and bad, this is a surefire sign that she’s special to you.

9. Putting in effort

Showing someone they’re special is ultimately about actions, not words.

If you’re putting in an effort that you wouldn’t for an average woman – whether that’s through travelling a long way to see her, cooking breakfast, or accompanying her to some boring activity – that should be enough to show her she’s special.

Warning: don’t overdo it

These tips will transform you from fuckboy to boyfriend material in her mind, but please don’t overdo it in the early days of courtship.

Too many dudes make the mistake of treating a woman like a princess when they barely know her. This is not attractive. It only serves to make you look creepy and desperate. It’s the classic mistake of the ‘nice guy’ who ends up in the friendzone.

To initially win a woman’s interest, you’re better off demonstrating behaviors of a guy who gets lots of girls. Once you’ve done this and decided you want her as a girlfriend, the tips above will help you prove she means more than any other woman.

About Joe Elvin

Joe Elvin is a dating/relationships blogger currently travelling the world living as a digital nomad. His book ‘The Thrill Of The Chase’ explains how learning to truly enjoy singledom helped him to dramatically improve his dating life.

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