What To Do If She’s Seeing Other People
This is the guide to help you get that promiscuous girl to choose you over all the other dudes.
It’s not easy, but the strategy below is your best shot.
We’ll also cover the strategies that don’t work, so you don’t shoot yourself in the foot.
First things first, you have no right to be upset about this.
In this day and age, it’s completely normal for men and women to date multiple people at the same time. Everyone’s looking for true love and this is the efficient way to find it.
If you’ve not agreed to be exclusive, she has every right to sleep around. Most single girls do. They just don’t admit it. Getting in a bad mood about it will only serve to drive her away for good.
That’s worth repeating. ANYTHING you do that indicates jealousy will disgust her.
With this fundamental rule out the way, let’s focus on what you CAN do to make her choose you over the others.
(Of course, if she’s agreed to be your girlfriend, that’s a whole different ballgame. Get as upset as you like in this situation – and don’t try and get her back. You deserve better.)
If you’ve been raised on fairytales and romantic comedies, you might think the solution to this situation is to show more affection. Buy her flowers. Write her a love song. Invite her to a fancy restaurant.
In real life, this repels her.
Neediness instantly turns women off. Meanwhile, everything that typically attracts a woman is also an indicator you DON’T need her: An exciting life. A big friendship group. A good job. Passions. Being fun and carefree. Being desired by other women. The list goes on…
Of course, you need to show these qualities in a subtle way. If you force these attributes down her throat, that comes across as too try-hard. She needs to find about them organically.
Social media is a great tool to assist with this. Here are 7 reasons to add a woman on social media, as well as getting her phone number.
If she’s dating other guys, the best thing you can do is go have a fantastic time with other friends, and document it on Instagram, Snapchat etc.
Organize a wild night on the town. Try a new hobby. Invite a bunch of female friends out. Whatever makes you happy.
If she’s watching this awesomeness unfold on social media, she’ll almost always be the one to get back in touch with you.
You’re ticking all her boxes without contacting her. Not needy? Awesome life? Awesome friends? Making me chase? Check, check, check, check.
It’s counter-intuitive, but it works.
If she doesn’t send you a text, there’s no harm in reigniting the conversation in a carefree way, then inviting her out.
There’s no reality where you spend all your time in the office or playing Fortnite, and hot women still want to date you.
If you don’t have a brilliant life, now is the time to start building one.
This isn’t even about getting girls. It’s about making the most of your time on earth. You only get one shot at life, so you might as well meet a ton of awesome people, try new things, visit places.
If girls motivate you to do that, great! If you’re doing it for yourself, beautiful women still come into your life as a wonderful bonus.
If she doesn’t use social media, this strategy won’t work as well. You’ll need to do a better job of portraying your life when you’re with her, or you can learn to use WhatsApp, Telegram to show off in a fun, carefree way.
Even if this doesn’t work and you don’t get the girl, it’s likely you’ll meet loads of other women while you’re out living your awesome life.
Before you know it, you’ll start dating a better woman. The better your quality of life, the better quality of partner you attract, provided you know what to do when you see her.
So, keep being the best version of yourself. If she wants to come back, she will. Perhaps by that time, you’ll be too awesome to even want her.
Here is another article related to the subject: https://www.tsbmag.com/2014/09/09/how-to-make-her-stop-playing-mind-games/
About Joe Elvin Joe Elvin is a dating/relationships blogger currently travelling the world living as a digital nomad. His book ‘The Thrill Of The Chase’ explains how learning to truly enjoy singledom helped him to dramatically improve his dating life.