What Are The Signs A Girl Is Attracted To You?
First a distinction must be made. There is a difference between attraction and interest. A lot of guys make the mistake of believing that because a girl is attracted to them they want to go out with them. This is simply not the case. Women are complex, and you must know exactly where you stand in order to get your strategy right.
That said interest—the potential for dating, sex, etc.—begins with attraction. Contrary to popular myth, women are as driven by physical attraction as men; it’s not all cooing and sentimentalism with the sisters. They do, however, show it differently.
You must learn to detect the signs a woman is into you if you want to know whether she’s into you. Here are 5 of them.
1. She looks down or sideways
If she likes what she sees, she will look at you—until you look back at her and lock eyes. If she feels drawn to you, she will look down. Don’t take this as an insult. In fact, it is a good thing; it is a reflexive, involuntary signal of your sexual superiority and her sexual submission to you. If she looks sideways, it means she has not made up her mind or is embarrassed that you caught her in the act of leering at you.
2. Her looks get longer
Let’s say the girl is no longer a stranger. You may have struck up a conversation, or you may have seen each other repeatedly over a period of time. She will become bolder and more confident in the way she feels about you, and she will look at you much longer than she has to.
Most people when in conversation look away at various points to gather their thoughts and formulate the exact words they want to use. If a girl is into you, she will speak little and spend most of her time listening to what you have to say (so you better be interesting); when she does speak, she will maintain eye contact because she is more interested in looking at you than saying whatever is on her mind.
3. Her body language changes
Some girls still blush. Although this is a rarity in this time of normalized immodesty, there are girls who will shrug their shoulders, smile, and turn slightly red in the cheeks. I have had this effect on women and find it more adorable than sexy.
Most women, however, express attraction through the body in much more subtle ways.
She will assume a better posture—one that makes her look elegant and appealing. She might stroke her legs or even an inanimate object like a glass or a straw. And take note: women who are in the presence of men they’re attracted to instinctively fiddle with their hair.
A bulge in the pants is a visible sign that a man is attracted to a woman; a hardening of the nipples is a sign that a woman is attracted to a man. Yes, it’s hard to see them through her bra; but you would be surprised at how many women go braless these days, so pay attention.
4. She seeks your attention
If she is really into you, she will do what is necessary to get your attention. She might speak louder than is necessary when she is with friends, and she will find a way to ease her way toward you in a crowded room. She will ensure that you see the goods: she will swing her ass more vigorously when she thinks you’re looking and regularly arch her back so as to direct your attention to her breasts.
5. She breaks the touch barrier
Another sign that a woman is attracted to you is that she will break the touch barrier almost immediately. In a way, we never really grow out of the courting habits we develop in grade school. The girls in grade school who couldn’t stop laughing when you were around them and who playfully hit you were the ones who liked you. Nothing has really changed. The girl who feels compelled to touch you even in the briefest and most casual encounter is sending a clear signal: she thinks you’re hot.
About Christopher Reid Chris was born in Washington, D.C. and lives in Britain. He works as a blogger, essayist, and novelist. His first book, Tea with Maureen, has just been published.