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Most men are under the false impression that beautiful women don’t want to talk to them. This is not the case. Beautiful women crave fun and flirtatious conversations just as much as we do. The fact is, there are so few men who know how to peak a woman’s interest through talking to her, that she is actually dying to meet a man who can.
The main reason most men don’t communicate well with women is because they let their nervousness and anxiety prevent them from showing a woman their fun side. The second biggest reason a man doesn’t connect with a woman is because he doesn’t talk to her in a way that she responds to.
7. Concentrate on the emotions rather than facts
Women are different than men. As we talked about in part one and part two of this series, women love to talk about the meaning behind actions and the emotions they evoke.
It is also true that the emotions that you arise during a conversation she will subconsciously anchor them to you. This means that if you are talking about relationships and she starts talking about all of the bad feelings she experienced with her previous boyfriend, she will begin to associate you with those feelings.
Try this instead:
If it is true that women will anchor negative feelings to you, than it must be true that women will anchor positive feelings to you. This is why it is important to draw her into a positive emotional state. One way to do this, as discussed in the last article, is to tease her. Another way to do this is to ask questions and make statements that prompt her to talk about specific feelings that she has for something.
If you are talking to a woman and she mentions the fact that she likes to go snowboarding, instead of talking about facts such as what mountain does she usually snowboard at, or what kind equipment does she use (which is common questions you would ask another man) instead get her to talk about the feelings she experiences while snowboarding.
For example:
You: Did you do anything fun last weekend?
Her: Yea I went snowboarding. I had the best time.
You: Wow. I love snowboarding. I think I’m literally addicted to the rush I get going down the mountain. What about you? What excites you most about snowboarding?
Her: Well I guess it would be that feeling of adventure… like going so fast, being so scared, but not wanting it to end because it feels like you’re really living.
In this example you’ve taken the topic of snowboard and talked about the meaning behind snowboarding and emotions it evokes. Since these are emotions are positive, you’ve put the woman in a positive mood, and she has subconsciously anchored the feeling of adventure, excitement, and not wanting it to end… to you.
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well done.. i especially like that last tip : “imagine that the woman has already told you that later she is going to get naked and sprawl out over your bed and let you have your way with her.”
i too often get caught up and feel this self-imposed pressure to perform. it feels i am always working towards the end result but this way of thinking will allow me to relax and have some fun along the way to her being spread out on my bed.