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Be a bar star
The best part about learning to become successful in the bar scene is when it all comes together and you bring a 5’6” curvy blonde back to your apartment, launch her on your bed, and do wild, amazing, awesome things with her the rest of the night. It’s likely the reason you’re reading this right now.
The Biggest Obstacle
Guys need to realize that the most important thing when it comes to bringing a girl home with you is getting her to feel comfortable with you. Just because she’s attracted to you and you’ve established a connection doesn’t mean that she feels comfortable enough to have sex with you. Sex is a huge deal to women and they want to make sure they have a guys trust before becoming intimate with them. Getting a girl to feel comfortable enough to come home with you is the last hurdle before becoming intimate with her.
Be a Gentlemen
The first step towards gaining her trust is simply being a gentleman. Hold doors open, pick up the bill if it’s the first date, open the car door when you’re headed somewhere. It’s easy to do and women eat it up.
Time to Be Genuine
In order to really trust someone enough to sleep with them, a girl wants to know they can relate to a guy. In a way she wants to know that he isn’t perfect, and has genuine qualities. Doesn’t make any sense right? Its okay, chicks don’t make sense.
So after you’ve kissed the girl a few times and the night is winding down, look for an opportunity to relate to her and share a story about yourself that’ll show the real you, and prove to her that you aren’t just some seducer that’s trying to get in her pants. It can be something corky like an embarrassing story or something that you don’t tell many people, maybe the fact that you’ve been on your own since you were 15. I’m just giving examples. Use something from your own life as there’s no need to tell a lie when you’re trying to be genuine.
Back at Your Place
Once you get to your place it’s a good time to evaluate the situation. Are you all over each other and going to go straight to the bed or are you going to crack open a few beers, throw a movie on and chill on the couch for a few minutes before getting into it? Again focuses on comfort. You’ve gone too far to blow it.
If for some weird reason you have yet to kiss her before you got to your house, kiss her ASAP. The second she walks through your door you should pull her over to you, thank her for coming over and plop one on her.
No matter what’s going on, make sure you’re having a good time. You’ve waited the entire night and possibly longer to get her back to your place, so enjoy it!
Learn more From Alex, Check out “Dominating the Bar Scene”: An All Encompassing Guide to Meeting Beautiful Women at Bars
Cool post!
A big lesson I learned about women from my own experience, I summarize as “Nothing has to be perfect, everything has to be real”…
Guys tend to look at attraction in a competitive way and they want to come across as “a strong man” and not show any weakness…
But if you look at it, it takes a lot more balls to truely be yourself… And not hiding an embarrising story or something like that, like you say in “Time To Be Genuine”, is really powerful…
In general, relating to her as a person and not a “hot think you want to fuck” is very unusual for them…
Interesting, you stated:
“Guys tend to look at attraction in a competitive way and they want to come across as “a strong man” and not show any weakness…”
Attraction is competitive – totally competitive. Women will take the strongest and best guy they can find. They will go with the tallest and most fit. The only exception to this is a guy with money. Read any of the evolutionary books we are told to read like The Red Queen or Sperm Wars.
An average guy or a guy who really tries to work his best but is still short or bald or has some kind of “inferior” problem will never take the curvy blonde home. Thats absurd. Why would she go home with this guy? What does she have to gain?
“Once you get her back to your place” – what a fairy tale. The whole PUA thing is junk. It does not work for guys who are not good looking or have somekind of money or something to offer to a beautiful woman.
If this is all so true than answer me this – why would this curvy blonde settle for less? Tell me why would she?
I love this one line “Sex is a huge deal to women and they want to make sure they have a guys trust before becoming intimate with them.”
Sex is not a big deal to women (attractive women). If an attractive woman wanted sex, all she has to do is get dressed up, go to a local pub or bar and a one night stand could happen very easily. I known I have seen it happen (not to me but with friends). It is not a big deal to them. What is a bigger deal is relationships and that is another story.
Sex is a bigger deal to men for it is harder for men to have sex with attractive women due to women having control in the dating thing.
So your point is completely off here.
Great article.
Indeed, it’s all in the tongue, tone and attitude.
Rham described women as being more logical than emotional creatures, which is simply false.
Sure you will be cut much more slack if you’re rich, good-looking, tall, well-hung, fit, whatever; but you still have to say the right things and set the right mood if you want to bring her home.
Sorry, man, but I think you’re in some kind of denial. You just going to have to accept the fact that even though you many stuff going on for you, i.e. more to impress with, a smooth talker, a teaser or a “natural” still got a better chance of hooking up.
Jamal,
While you make sense on paper, its the not real world. This is my disagreement with this article. I really wonder if the author has even been out to any real pickup bars. He certainly has not answered any of the emails we have written back to him.
Yeah in the movies and stuff women are charmed by sweet talking guys but have you noticed they are mostly good looking guys. Same as in real life.
No denial here at all just real world experience. No keyboard jockey stuff. Its all about LMS – looks, money and status. Sorry dude but I think you are in denial. Go out to a real bar sometime, try and hook up with some hot women by using charm or game or whatever carnival tactics you want to call it and let me know what you find out. I am curious and send real photos.