Table of Contents
- 1 5 All-Time Best PUA Openers
- 2 Everything you need to know about using openers to start a conversation with a woman
- 3 What is a Pua Opener?
- 4 What makes them different then pick up lines?
- 5 What should an opener accomplish?
- 6 Types of PUA Openers
- 7 Direct Pua Openers
- 8 In-direct Opinion Pua Openers
- 9 Gimmicky Openers
- 10 Situation Openers
- 11 5 Best Pua Openers
5 All-Time Best PUA Openers
Everything you need to know about using openers to start a conversation with a woman
There seems to be a mystery as to what sort of opening lines you should use to start a conversation with a woman.
Chances are you’ve heard some god awful pick up lines over the years. Don’t worry, this page will only talk about using some of the best pua openers I’ve come across over the years.
First, I’m going to give you a brief background about what openers are, and why they work so well. And then I’m going to give you a list of my the best pua openers I’ve used over the years.
What is a Pua Opener?
Most of you probably first heard the term pua after reading Neil Strauss‘s book The Game. Neil Strauss used a lot of acronyms in the book to describe elements of a sort of sub-culture he was involved in. PUA stands for “Pick Up Artist.” Neil refers to the words used to start a conversation as “openers.” So most guys who study game refer to these sort of openers as PUA Openers.
What makes them different then pick up lines?
Just for the record, none of the opening lines I’ll be talking about are anything like the typical pick up lines your AFC (average frustrated chump) friends have probably advised you to use. In fact, as I go through some of the best openers, you’ll realize that most of them don’t even seem like they are designed to attract women.
What makes a pua opener different then a pick up line is that generally openers do not start out with a strong statement of interest. Instead, most openers leave the woman guessing on your intention. This makes you seem more interesting to the woman. And allows her to put her guard down for a minute and gives you an opportunity to connect with her.
What should an opener accomplish?
The sole job of an opener is said to be to start a conversation with a girl. I disagree a little about this. I believe that a good pua opener just several jobs.
1. A good opener starts a conversation with a girl in a way that differentiates you from most of the other guys who have approached her in the past.
2. A good opener allows you to start a conversation with a woman in that skips over the normal, boring small talk that kills most approaches pretty quickly.
3. A good opener engages everyone the woman is talking to. When approaching a group you should always open the entire group.
Types of PUA Openers
Most people who have read Neil Strauss’s book The Game think of openers as mainly asking a woman her opinion on something. But that is just one type of opener. In this section I’m going to outline the most common types of openers.
So generally there are – I classify about five different ways to start a conversation. One is directly using a direct opener. The second is using an indirect opener. Third is using a gimmicky type of opener. Fourth is a situational type of opener. And fifth is inviting her into a conversation you’re already having.
So let’s talk about the different kinds of openers.
Direct Pua Openers
Now, what a direct opener is, is you’re letting her know your intention immediately. There is no hiding the fact that you have come over here to hit on her. And you can do this by saying something like ‘Hey, you’re giving off an incredible energy, and I had to come over here and see what you’re deal was’.
What differentiates a direct opener from a standard pick up line is your delivery. You are not complimenting the woman to seek her approval. You’re complimenting her from a place of complete an utter confidence. Your unapologetic attitude is what makes you so attractive to her.
- Being direct displays massive confidence, assuming you deliver it in a confident manner and it lets a woman know your intention right off the bat. This eliminates any chance of being put in the friend zone.
- It allows you to disqualify uninterested women quicker. This will prevent you from spending too much time talking to a woman who is blatantly not interested or who has a boyfriend.
- It takes balls. And if you’re not confident yet, it’s going to be really hard to pull it off.
- It gives you less time to build attraction. You’re putting her on the spot. You’re making her, kind of forcing her to make up her mind about you very quickly.
In-direct Opinion Pua Openers
Indirect is either making a vague statement, or asking her opinion on something. You’re basically starting a conversation in a way that, in the same way that you would start a conversation with somebody else at the bar.
And it’s just asking opinion on something. An example of that is, ‘Do I look gay?’
Another one, if you ever saw the ‘Keys to the VIP’ video with Cajun is, ‘Do I look like a drug dealer?’ You can ask something along the lines of ‘Hey, is kissing cheating?’
- It doesn’t really take a lot of courage to use an opinion opener, which is what’s great about them. It is that you can just use them and there is no pressure right away.
- There’s no pressure on the girl, which means that there is a lot more time to build attraction.
- You come across as friendly and non-threatening’
- If you don’t know how to follow it up you can spend too much time on the opener.
Gimmicky openers are something that it takes a certain type of personality to use. You’re basically using kind of like an outside source to start talking to a girl. It can be something like pretending your doing an interview, using a prop, or doing magic.
- You differentiate yourself from other guys.
- It’s pretty easy to use and it captures her attention.
- You need to have a quick follow up.
- You run the risk of appearing like a “dancing monkey”
The next type of openers that PUAs use are situational. An example of a situation opener is just turning to a woman you’re next to and making a comment about the environment.
To use a situation opener you just need to become aware of what is going on around you. And as soon as you notice something worth commenting on, you can just turn to the woman and start the conversation.
- They are very easy to use as they are non-threatening
- They appear more spontaneous
- Sometimes you can spend way too much time trying to find something worth commenting on and you lose an opportunity to talk to a girl.
- These don’t really differentiate you from other men.
So those are the main types of PUA openers that you can use at a bar or club to start a conversation with a girl.
I think you can clearly see that these are way different then using cheesy pick up lines you might have heard used on some sitcom on television.
Now since most of you have already read the book The Game by Neil Strauss, I will not include pua openers listed in that book. Instead, I’m going to list some of the most effective opening lines I’ve used to start conversations with girls.
So if you’ve ever asked yourself “how to start a conversation with a girl?” Here is your answer:
5 Best Pua Openers
These are 5 openers taken from the Little Black Book of Openers. There are over 175 PUA openers included in the book. The book is completely free and it also comes with a one hour long audio class on how to use PUA Openers. Get the free book here.
‘Bank Robbery’ Opener
“Hey girls, are u good drivers? Me and Friend, are robbing bank across the street, and guess what (pause). Driver screwed us. All you need to do is picks us up at XX.00am, and drive to airport. You get 3%.
This always leads into good conversation, with good energy. This is my opener number 1# right now. They always want to negotiate their %. And they will ask for 5%
“I love your style. You’ve got a great look – you must be very creative.”
This opener works well because everyone loves to thought of as being “creative.”
“Drug Dealer “Opener
Used with a wing at night, with funny, just-got-done-laughing tonality.
“Hey, I need your opinion on something…does my friend here look like a drug dealer?” (chicks usually either laugh or look quizzically) “Because we were outside and some dude came up to him and touched him on the shoulder like this… (cheap kino on girl) and asked, ‘Hey man, you got some E?’” Ideally you will use this with a wing who doesn’t look too straight-laced.
“I’m Lost” Opener
I’m lost… I can’t find my friends and I’m scared… Remember when we were kids and you could just make new friends whenever you wanted… and you said ‘want to be my friend?’ Do you guys want to by my NEW friend?”
“Maury Povich” Opener
Even though this pua opener was talked about it the game… it is too GOOD not to include here:
This one is used to wing your buddy, especially if he’s in a two-set and the obstacle needs to be kept occupied. “Hey, my friend here just got invited to be on the Ricki Lake show. But the theme of the show is Secret Admirers. They told him he’s got an admirer, but he won’t find out whom until he’s live on the set. So maybe it’ll be someone cute, but maybe not; it might even be a guy. What would you do if you were him?”
So those are the PUA Openers I have had the most success with over the years. But I’ve used hundreds of different openers. Some of the openers I made up on the spot… but most of the openers I’ve used over the years were collected from reading various field reports from different PUAs.
Although the openers above are quite good (and tested) I realize that everyone has different personalities and feel comfortable using different kinds of openers.
So I collected close to 200 of the all-time best PUA openers and compiled them all into a free ebook. It’s called The Little Black Book of Openers and I want to give it to you free.
On the next page, just put your email in the box… and I’ll send it right over to you. And you’ll have hundreds of new openers you can use tonight.
Which means you’ll have absolutely no excuse not to be approaching women tonight.
I put together a collection of over 77 pua openers.