Gambler, from Pua Training sent me this list of how to keep girls more engaged in your conversations with them. Be interesting! Be interesting! Its so simple yet so many of us revert to boring ass “So.. where you from… what do you do for a living?” talk. You want to excite a girl you have to engage her in the conversation.

Creating Interesting Conversations by Richard La Ruina

1. Avoid hairdresser conversation

What kind of conversation do you have with a hairdresser, person in the post office queue, your aunt who you see once every 6 months? It is probably boring, shallow, and what I like to call conversation on rails. When we meet someone new, they say “what do you do”, “where are you from”, “do you like films” etc etc. We hate answering these questions over and over, yet we ask them of others. For attractive women who get approached regularly, the issue is even bigger.
2. Don’t interview her

Many women are approached and immediately put on the spot and asked to answer a series of questions. The man’s only response to her answers is usually “oh really, so…”. This quickly gets boring and any woman that puts up for this for long must either be really attracted to you or very very polite.

Don’t ask a series of questions. Ask one, and connect on the point then ask another. For advanced level skills, try to elicit the answer without asking the boring question - make an assumption or guess about what she does, where she is from, or what food she likes. You get the same information but it is more interesting for her.

3. Don’t say the obvious

If a girl has pretty eyes, she has probably heard it 500 times. Find something more specific to her, preferably not about her appearance, or don’t say anything at all. It is fine to give an obvious compliment with feeling when you are already together but in the early stages it is not what she wants.

4. Have interesting answers to standard questions

There are certain questions and conversational paths that occur again and again for each person. Think about what yours are, and make your input more interesting. If a conversation gets boring because the girl starts asking boring questions, she won’t remember it was her fault, she will just know she is bored!

5. Talk with passion

If you can talk with passion about things you care about, it draws people in. If you enjoy something, let it show, be expressive, use visual and emotive language. People get caught up in it and start to feel good too. When they feel good, they will want to talk to you more.

Do these things and you will be much more interesting, not just with women, but with everyone. Because most people don’t follow these rules, it will be easy to stand out.

Gambler

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