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How to Find a Girlfriend Fast
You’ve caught the lonely bug. You’ve spent far too many hours home alone, by yourself, watching HBO’s latest crop of groundbreaking shows, and instead want to watch them with somebody. Instead of crying into your bowls of ice cream and Trader Joe’s chocolate truffles, you want to alleviate your pain by allotting your affection to somebody who you feel is deserving. You’re tired of riding a tandem bicycle on your own, can’t stand another solitary rooftop walk, and realize that it’s time for a change and time for that change to happen now.
So what are you going to do about it?
You’re going to find a girlfriend.
Some people just respond better to life when they’re in relationships – they’re less depressed, they actually bathe, and do things for themselves.
Other people want to be the eternal bachelor, as immortalized by innumerable plank-like television characters, but let’s just say you’re going to want to get a girl and make her your main squeeze for a period of time. What to do, what to do? We’ll help you. Like so many services that claim they can do the same, we’re going to help you find a girlfriend. We’ll also share some of the best places to find a girlfriend.
Tips to Help You Find a Girlfriend
1. Realize what you’re looking for.
You’ve probably watched wide-eyed television shows featuring Victoria’s Secret models, traipsing up and down the runway, looking waifish and attractive, saying to yourself, ‘Oh, I’d love to get her to cook me a meal.’
The problem is, not all people are girlfriend material. Everybody wants something different. Like the type of man a gold-digger goes for is not the same type of person a social worker would go for – so to start out, you’re going to have a long conversation with yourself where you get standards. That’s right, you’re going to get yourself some standards.
Take a piece of paper, or a nice word-processing program and write down what you look for in a woman. They have to be qualities specific to you. If you’re into comic books – you’re going to be after the nerdy girl. If you’re into art, find someone who can draw and is into going to galleries. If you’re into wellness and personal training, you’re not going to feel comfortable dating a crackhead. Find what you want, and be diligent in screening for it.
2. Realize where to a girlfriend you’re looking for.
People like going to events and places that they enjoy. For example, you’re not going to find a finance type at a hippy commune, unless he’s going against the rigid structures that he knows and appreciates. Conversely, you’re not going to find a hippy at a yacht party – where are we going with this?
Find the places where you can flag the type of person you’re interested in, and go to those places. You’re never going to get the type of girl that you want if you’re avoiding the places that they go. There’s a reason why a certain type of girl goes to a club, and another one avoids them entirely. Find which type that you want to get in with. It’s better not to waste your effort with a type of person that you’re going to wind up hating a few months down the line, so don’t do that. Don’t get into a relationship with someone that is just going to annoy you in that fashion.
3. Approach the girls that you like.
There’s something mystifying happening in the world on a day to day basis, in relation to guys and the girls that they like – they’re too terrified to be talking to them. They continually elude them. But the only way you’re going to find a girlfriend is by when you grow a sack and approach women.
So instead, they guys wind up talking to girls that they’d much rather be just friends with – and that goes tremendously well so instead of being ‘just friends’, they start a romantic entanglement where the guy eventually winds up wondering, ‘Oh, right. I’m really not that attracted to this girl, why is it that we’re fighting with each other? How did we get to this point? What’s my name?’ It’s insane to me what lengths guys will go to in order to avoid talking to the girls that they’d probably wind up having a great time with. Don’t be an avoider. Be an action-taker.
4. Always go for numbers and continuations with the girls that you like.
Always be moving the interaction forward. Always be the guy pressing it to go an extra step, no matter what the case may be. Additionally, even before the first meet-up, provided that the interaction is going well, you’re going to want to seed things to do next and follow through on them. The only difference between a girl that you’ve just met and a girlfriend is that with the girlfriend, you’ll be spending so much more time with them.
Get out there. Find the type of girl that’s right for you, and talk to her – it’s the only way you’ll be able to find a girlfriend.
5. Ask her out
If you’re going to move the relationship forward you’re going to need to ask her out on a date.
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