It hurts sometimes hearing what other people think of you. Yes, even Bobby Rio has feelings. Back in the day when I was first discovering that there were people actually teaching men how to meet more women, I was open for any kind of advice. I was a newbie to the community and was devouring all the information I could find.

Well, one of the things I did was go around and ask my friends, males and females, to give me honest feedback on certain qualities about myself. Man, did I hate what I was hearing… lol.. My friends were brutally honest. Most of them said that my facial expressions constantly showed me to look timid and depressed. They said that I walked like I had a stick up my ass!! It hurt hearing this shit. It honestly did. The women were even worse. I was told that I look like a dear in headlights. My posture sucks! I fidget too much!! And on and on it went.

Luckily I was able to take the criticism and turn it into the pick up artist I am today. Learning from mistakes and moving on is essential if you want to get better in any area of your life.

I recently came across this short post from the guys over at PUA Training. Its a short list of ways to improve your body language.

Body Language Tips for Men by Richard La Ruina

1. Plant Yourself When Standing Still

Put your feet slightly wider apart than is natural, don’t shift your weight. Notice how your feet feel planted. You can stay like this for long periods of time. This is how martial artists stand, it is a solid base.

2. Don’t Fidget, Fiddle, Or Touch Your Face

What do you normally do with your hands? Twitching and fidgeting is very unattractive, look around and see it in other people. It makes you look nervous. Keep your hands by your sides. Place the thump on the index and middle fingers, this removes the natural need for the fingers to constantly be doing something.

3. Don’t Look Down

Keep your head up. If you need to look away, look up, never look down, it’s a sign of weakness and also looks unattractive. You can observe this in others. Looking down even has been proven to have a bad effect on your mental state.

4. Make Slow Head Movements

High status males everywhere, on film, in business, and in your social circle have certain things in common. One of which is slow, smooth movements. Look around slowly and smoothly, don’t dart around and jolt your head around like you have been drinking espressos all day long. Think smooth, think James Bond. James Bond has very attractive body language, and smoothness and lack of fidgety movements are the main elements.

5. Walk Slowly And Smoothly

This is more high-status behaviour. By being smooth and comfortable you give off a sense of quiet confidence. You stand out from the people rushing around. In a bar or club, slow it down even more, you will stand out, in a good way.

6. Hold Your Drink By Your Side

When you have a drink, hold it by your side. It is a blocking action to hold a drink in front of your chest.

Do these things and you will make a better first impression and stand out from the other men in a room. If you are ever internally uncomfortable, you can still appear confident and composed by following the above rules.

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