How to Master Push-Pull and Cocky-Funny (day 11)

Thus, if you already have good fundamentals (BL&T and basic inner game), and you want to shave massive amounts of time off your seductions, youre better off pulling the girl in more frequently than pushing her away because the chances are good she will give in more often than not.

Ah, but Asian Rake, when you push a girl away, doesnt she want to pull you in? Isnt that the whole point of pushing her away? So you can get her to chase you?

Yes, to a certain extent, this is true. Thats why you SHOULD STILL PUSH. Thats the all-important 20%. In fact, by pulling most of the time, when you do finally push her away, itll feel that much more powerful to her.

If youre a dominant guy, girls will feel pressure to follow your orders, and unless shes very dominant herself, chances are good that she will NOT pull you in return every time you push her away. Chances are good that if you are a dominant man, when you push her further away, she will follow your lead and remain further away.

Assuming the pushes and pulls are of about equal emotional intensity (thats one variable Im leaving out here), if you PULL more often than not, she might resist you at first, but then because youre dominant, shell follow your lead and move closer to you emotionally and physically. If you PUSH more often than not, she might resist you at first, but then because youre a dominant guy, shell follow your lead and move further away from you emotionally and physically.

Sure you can generate attraction with most combinations of push-pull. But whats faster to sex? When shes emotionally and physically closer to you, or when shes emotionally and physically farther from you? It should be obvious.

This is how the best naturals Ive seen get bathroom lays in less than 15 minutes.

Its pull-pull-pull-pull-PUSH-pull-pull-pull-PUSH-pull-pull-pull to the bathroom.

2. By pulling more often than pushing, you can also create the deep emotional connections much faster.

If youre continually pushing her away emotionally, however, how can she possibly feel an emotional connection? This should be obvious. A far more efficient way to develop emotional connections is to pull her in emotionally.

One very effective kind of pull technique is in conjunction with screening and qualifying. If your Believability game is good then every qualification is actually a pull.

For instance, Wow, you are really adventurous, I like that, said in response to her little adventure story, is a great example of a pull.

When you stack enough of these, shell feel like you really appreciate her for her unique qualities. Shell be saying to herself, Wow, this guy really, truly, sincerely likes me for my special qualities. And of course, shell want to open herself up and continue connecting with you.

Btw, this is also a key technique for creating the kind of emotional connections that will get girls to fall in love with you FAST. There are others, of course, like sharing secrets and using childhood regression, but this is one of the easiest to do.

Now lets add the COCKY-FUNNY into the mix.

What exactly do I mean by Push Cocky-Funny vs. Pull Cocky-Funny?

Once again, probably the best way to illustrate what I mean is through examples.

PUSH COCKY-FUNNY

The prime proponent of this is David D. Lets first talk about the internal mindset behind Push Cocky-Funny. David D. helpfully lays it all out in his Double Your Dating:

Im going to play hard to get, make fun of her, be indifferent towards her, and generally bust her balls as much as possible. I know that she loves a guy that is so sarcastic that it makes her nervous, so Im going to really keep the heat on… and when she starts to show any interest at all on the outside, Im going to blow her off and make her prove to me that she wants me… so I can reject her again.

You notice that with this mindset, youll be pushing her away a lot more than youll be pulling her in. David D. follows this up with some now classic examples:

I do crazy things, like if Im standing next to a girl at a bar, Ill turn to her and say in a completely serious voice, Will you PLEASE stop touching me?And then look them right in the eye.

Or say, What are you doing at a bar for godsakes? Cant you find a nice normal guy? Or are you desperate? All with a completely straight face.

I could go on forever, but youre better off reading his ebook or watching his DVD series Cocky Comedy. Wow, I never thought Id be plugging David D.s materials, as if he needs to sell any more. LOL.

When most guys think “cocky-funny,theyre thinking this kind of cocky-funny, which is what I call, Push Cocky-Funny.

PULL COCKY-FUNNY

This is my default style of cocky-funny, so Ill give you one of my own examples.

I learned from a natural friend that this sort of thing is best done when youre a bit over the top or dramatically exaggerated in what you say and in your facial expressions, tonality, and body language.

This took place near the coat check of a huge nightclub, which is just about the only place in the club where you can talk without speaking right into her ear. A super cute, long-haired beauty walks by, and I jump in front of her with my hands slightly extended in front of my chest in a stopping motion with my palms out.