How to tell if your date is going badly
You may think that it is obvious when a date is going badly, but that is not necessarily the case. While you are thinking everything is peachy, she may be counting down the minutes. Very few women will be upfront or cut a date short when it is not what she expected or wanted; most will endure the rest of the evening before making her excuses and never talking to you again. Look for these signs during your date and maybe you will be able to get your trainwreck of a date back on track.
She’s not asking questions
You may be firing off questions at her, but she is not interested in asking those same questions back. She is not asking what you do for a living, or where you grew up, or what your favourite television show is; because she does not care. In her mind, there is no point getting to know you as she has already made up her mind. Try to ease back on asking her questions, and see if she takes the lead in the conversation. It may be that she is not asking questions because she feels like she cannot get a word in; make sure you give her plenty of opportunities to talk before jumping to the conclusion that she does not care to get to know you.
She frequently absents herself from the date by going to the bathroom, checking her phone or just wandering off. It could be that she is actually going to the bathroom a lot because she is nervous and wants to check that her hair still looks good, but in combination with other distractions, it is a huge neon sign that your date is going horribly. You are not keeping her interested, and so she is seeking other avenues of entertainment.
Everything is an issue to her. She turned her nose up at the restaurant you chose and complains that the service is taking too long. Regardless of whether or not her complaints are valid, she should be making an effort not to whine too much on a date. If she was having a good time, she would not even think to be unimpressed with various aspects of the date. Complaining about time-related issues such as the waiter failing to take your orders quickly enough also indicates that she is keen to get the date over with as soon as possible.
You may be having sparkling conversation, but that does not make up for there being no spark between you. A good date will have some sexual tension, even if it is otherwise perfect. If she seems to go out of her way to avoid holding hands or brushing against you, it is because she is not attracted to you. Attraction does not have to be physical; exchanging knowing looks is enough to build tension. If you are not detecting anything except friendliness from her, do not expect there to be a next date.
Do girls leave you confused as to whether or not they like you?
Let's face it. Girl's don't make it easy for you. She will often send mixed signals leaving you unable to tell if she is being friendly or flirty. If you read her signals wrong you risk rejection and embarrassment. Or worse, you blow it with a girl who wanted to kiss you.
Here is a simple and innocent move that will instantly tell you if you're in the friend zone, or if she's waiting for you to kiss her.
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About Natasha Abrahams Natasha Abrahams is a writer and journalism student from Melbourne, Australia. When she is not busy with being a principal writer on Weekendnotes or skipping lectures, she can be found emptying her wallet at the nearest shopping centre. You can read more from Natasha at: http://mensstyleandfashion.com/