Screenshot-by-screenshot guide to securing a Tinder date
Here is yet another play-by-play of a recent Tinder interaction of mine. In this example, one of my matches sent the first message. In another article I wrote, I explained how to generate a profile that gets more of your matches initiating contact.
My current Tinder bio instructs prospective matches to swipe left if they pronounce it “mann-aise” instead of “mayo-nnaise”:
She opened me, and now she beat me to asking for the date. I would have taken care of that around now if she hadn’t. When the dialogue is flowing as well as it was here, you can just have fun with it and ask for the date at any point. You can seamlessly ask for a date by incorporating the conversation you’re having into the ask, exactly as she did above.
Always be firm when setting the date. Avoid any “well I don’t know, what works for you?” kind of dialogue. Suggest a day, time, and place; she’ll let you know if it won’t work and you can take it from there.
In the past, I’ve advocated getting the number ASAP in online dating scenarios; but with mobile phones becoming increasingly integrated with social media, giving someone your number may also give them access to your Facebook or Twitter, which women can use to get a lot more information about you than you might want them to know before you’ve had a chance to meet in person.
Do girls leave you confused as to whether or not they like you?
Let's face it. Girl's don't make it easy for you. She will often send mixed signals leaving you unable to tell if she is being friendly or flirty. If you read her signals wrong you risk rejection and embarrassment. Or worse, you blow it with a girl who wanted to kiss you.
Here is a simple and innocent move that will instantly tell you if you're in the friend zone, or if she's waiting for you to kiss her.
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About Jordan Murray Jordan is a journalist who has written extensively about dating and lifestyle for multiple publications.