Sticking Points # 4: Not being Able to Get/Recognize Attraction
Back with the 4th installment of this sticking point series (I’m currently brainstorming 2 huge posts on Duality/women and Technology and where dating is going, these will have multiple parts and will possibly interrupt this series but it’ll be worth it)
Today I want to talk about attraction.
The biggest problems guys have with attraction is that they cannot recognize it. They literally can’t tell the difference between attraction and girls being polite.
There is even a name for this bias in psychology; The Male Sexual Overperception Bias which basically says that men tend to believe that any interest a woman shows in them is sexual interest.
This is the biggest problem men have when it comes to talking to new women because they assume that any interest a woman has is sexual even when it’s obvious the girl is simply being polite.
This leads to guys looking for signs of attraction which are mostly useless, punch yourself in the face if you’re still looking for:
Girls flicking their hair
Girls licking their lips
Girls tilting their heads
Instead you need to focus on the two best signs of attraction that will almost always be accurate
1. Will she move with you (even if it’s just 5 feet)
2. Will she qualify herself.
If the answer to either of these questions is no and you have been talking to a woman for more than 5 mins it’s time to move on as she’s not attracted to you.
Do girls leave you confused as to whether or not they like you?
Let's face it. Girl's don't make it easy for you. She will often send mixed signals leaving you unable to tell if she is being friendly or flirty. If you read her signals wrong you risk rejection and embarrassment. Or worse, you blow it with a girl who wanted to kiss you.
Here is a simple and innocent move that will instantly tell you if you're in the friend zone, or if she's waiting for you to kiss her.
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About john sinn Sinn is widely regarded as the second best PUA in the world. Sinn is known for his hard nosed style and take no excuses approach to teaching. He is a nondenominational teacher, which means that he subscribes to no particular method and instead blends the best of every school of seduction to create the best possible results for himself and his students. Sinn is currently running his own pick up company The Sinns Of Attraction, which offers live, phone and email training.