How to end a casual relationship
Ending a casual relationship can be tricky. You do not have a title for your fling, and nor are you exclusive. With such a murky relationship, it is not wonder that breaking up is not straightforward as it is with a girlfriend.
Have a short conversation
Some men favour the “disappearing act” method of breaking up. This is cowardly and will destroy your reputation among the woman’s social circles. The best way to end a casual fling is to have a brief conversation about it. Unlike breaking up in a serious relationship, it does not have to be done in person. A phone call is best. A perfect opportunity would be when she contacts you asking if you would like to see her. Give her a call and explain that you think it is best that you no longer see each other. If this feels too mean for your liking, you can soften the blow by saying that you enjoyed spending time with her but it is time to move on. If you have overlapping social groups, you may want to add that you still want to be friends with her.
Texting can also be used to end your relationship, if a phone call is too intimidating. Just be sure to keep the conversation brief. You do not want to be texting for hours over such a simple matter.
Don’t give an excuse
You do not owe her a detailed explanation of why you chose to stop seeing her. Do not be pushed in to giving her an explanation. The main reason to avoid giving an explanation is because it can be reasoned with. For example, if you tell her that you want to end things before you get too serious, she will suggest continuing on keeping your relationship casual (even though it is all but impossible to stop the natural progression of a relationship). Before you know it, your fling will be exactly the same as it was before.
She may also think your reason for ending the relationship is subject to change at a later date. If you tell her that you are not ready for a relationship right now, she may stay in contact with you and hope that you are ready later on.
No false hope
Saying that you would consider dating in the future is cruel. If you truly would consider giving her a chance later on, there is no reason you would stop seeing her now. Avoid saying anything about the future in your break-up conversation, unless she specifically asks. In this case, be honest and say that you do not foresee yourself crossing paths with her again.
End all contact with her, after you have that conversation. Sending her a link to a video she will like is not as harmless as you would like to think. If she continues to message you, do not send her anything more than a brief reply. A clean break will leave no hard feelings, and will not land you in a messy situation later.
About Natasha Abrahams Natasha Abrahams is a writer and journalism student from Melbourne, Australia. When she is not busy with being a principal writer on Weekendnotes or skipping lectures, she can be found emptying her wallet at the nearest shopping centre. You can read more from Natasha at: http://mensstyleandfashion.com/